Tip #5 of Seven Tips for Skyrocketing Your Game“ is about what to say, what not to say, and what’s important to say in skyrocketing your game with women – after the opening line.
I’m going to share with you advice I got on approaching and attracting women that I’ll never forget.
“It’s not what you say, but how you say it.”
I was out with my cousin one night. There were plenty of hot girls and as one walks by us he says this to me,
“Wow. Did you get a look at those girls tits? I would love to bury my face in them.”
Sure. My cousin is what most women would call a pig.
Well I called him on it that night. I asked him why doesn’t he just go over and tell her that. He laughed back at me.
“Yeah right. I would get slapped in the face. “
Of course I laughed back at him and I agreed he would get slapped…
But then I continued to explain that he could get away with being upfront with a woman if he only knew how to change his words just a little, and then learn how to say it the right way to her.
I said to him, think about it. She knows how incredible her tits are and I’m sure she’s well aware men that stare at them. She’s also been approached many times by mainly two types of failing men. The first man being lewd and crude as my cousin, and the second trying to hide the fact he was attracted to her breasts.
I told him to stand out and do things different than those two types of men and he will not have any problems moving on to a conversation with chemistry. I did warn him though if he is not congruent with his actions she will sense he is full of it and probably get pissed.If he has not learned to be a man who can say those over the top statements with her, he better hope she has a great sense of humor and is mildly intrigued by his ballsy attitude.
The story will continue but first let’s take a look at tip 5 from Nick for a wonderful transition.
5. It’s Not The First Thing You Say – It’s The Second
So many guys are worked up about what to say when they approach a woman, that it feels almost cruel to reveal this, but… what you say NEXT is much more important.
Sure, you can blow yourself out by approaching a girl and saying the wrong thing. “Can I buy you a drink?” and “It’s sure loud in here” count as “wrong things.”
But, regardless of how clever, direct, spontaneous, etc., the first thing you say is, after her response she’ll be looking at you expectantly wondering what you’re going to say next.
If you’ve been around for a while, you’ll recognize this issue – early on we had great openers and great attraction material, but no great way to transition between the two.
That’s why we created the Transitioning phase, first revealed in Magic Bullets.
Of course, the first thing you say can blow you out.
But more likely, if you’re getting blown out on the conversation starter, it’s a problem with body language and/or tonality. This is really hard to fix by yourself; get someone who knows what he’s doing to watch your game and give you honest feedback.
This is part five of ”Seven Tips for Skyrocketing Your Game“.
The original article quoted was written by Nick Savoy of Love Systems and was intended to promote and review his newly adapted and updated system,
Did you notice the statement of his tip?
“If you are getting blown out by your conversation starter it is most likely your body language or tonality.”
My cousin would have blurted out to this unsuspecting woman how much he liked her tits in a weak fearful tone. Like he was afraid of her reaction. He would have failed in approaching her. There is no doubt about that.
Now if he were to have confident body language without fear of pissing her off and used a soft tonality he could have easily said this instead, (While giving her a teasing little smirk)
“Wow. You must make a lot of bras extremely happy. Where do you shop?”
Did you see the difference? How the transition leads itself to either her laughing because of what he said. (Which is completely different that what every other guy has done.) It also lends itself to a different kind of flirty conversation. It says to her clearly that you have balls. And that you are a man who admires great tits but you are not hiding the fact that you find hers incredible enough to mention them without fear.
And when you do that with an attitude that is congruent with the body language of a strong ballsy man and a tonality that is not loud or abusive, there’s a great chance it will open her for the more important phase of approaching.
Which is what you say next.
Incidentally he chickened out and refused to say a word to her. And yes I have used that opening before, and yes it worked for me!
Because it’s who I am.
I decided to include that brief encounter because I feel just like Nick. You can learn all you want about what to say to a woman to “break the ice” but:
- If you are not congruent with who you are,
- If you have no idea where the conversation will go,
- If you have no clue about what you are going to say next,
- If you’re unsure about what transitional phrases lead to better conversations,
Then why bother working on your openers. Chances are you will fail big in two minutes flat anyways.
Women love conversations and a one liner is not a conversation.
A line will only last a few seconds or a little more. A conversation with substance, fun, and which can transition to either taking her home, getting her phone number, or meeting her someplace else to continue can last for hours.
This is why it is so important to learn about these transitions and spend the equal amount of your time focusing on them.
If your opener with a women only takes up 1% of your whole conversation and 99% of it requires you to be able to build attraction and transition easily, you must be willing to spend 99% percent of your practice time gaining those skills.
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This was part five of ”Seven Tips for Skyrocketing Your Game“.
The original article quoted was written by Nick Savoy of Love Systems and was intended to promote and review his newly adapted and updated system…
Review Every Tip on Increasing Your Game With Women
- Tip #1 of 7 Tips To Your Game – Measuring Skills Not Results
- Fashion – Grooming – Tip #2 of 7 – The Details Of Your Appearance
- Being Attractive is Not a Switch – Tip #3 – The Natural Approach
- Her Mind and Mood – Tip #4 of 7 – Women Do Not Feel Attracted to Logic
- Fun Dates – Tip 6 of 7 – Dating Should Not Be Work
- Learn – Execute – Tip #7 of 7 – Your Game with Women T.R.M.
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