There are a lot of guys out there sending conflicting information regarding what it is and isn’t to be “Alpha.” As in “Alpha Man” or “Alpha Male.”
Let’s start right off by saying that “Alpha” behavior is NOT bad.
It is NOT what you see animals doing in their nasty time in the zoo. It’s NOT attacking a tribe and killing all the young, or any weird stuff like that.
Look, “Alpha” just means the dominant male (and sometimes the female) in a group.
It’s the one that is most likely to procreate and get its genes into the next round of the “Keep the species alive” game.
So it really does make sense to get successful with women if you think about it like this. If you don’t find a woman to mate with and create little teeny versions of you, then it all ends with you.
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Do you deserve to have your genetic legacy carried on into the next generation? I hope so. And more importantly, I hope you believe so.
So don’t listen to a lot of this garbage and double speak out there regarding “Alpha Men” and what they should or should not be.
Here are a few things an Alpha IS:
Clever/smart/cunning
Ambitious
Excited
Honorable
Dominant (not aggressive, but demonstrating superior social skills)
Stable
Fit (healthy lifestyle)
Curious
Balanced
Natural
Here are a few things an Alpha is NOT:
Aggressive
Angry at women
Verbally abusive
Arrogant
Obnoxious
There seems to be some confusion (and most of it is created by other guys hoping to cash in on your confusion) about what it means to be a STRONG and persuasive man in today’s society.
I’m not even going to throw you more of that evolutionary stuff because it really doesn’t matter. When you think about it, it just makes sense that we want people who appear or demonstrate more social value than us. It’s because we naturally want to latch on to their power.
Again, it all comes back to power.
So being an “Alpha” doesn’t mean you’re dragging women back to a cave. Or that you’re being an aggressive, pushy jerk. Or that you’re being forceful and mean. Or that you’re inconsiderate. Or that you’re acting like a brutish animal.
It means that you understand the basic primal reasons a woman is attracted to a man, and you’re not afraid to BE a man.
Not a cardboard, one-dimensional wimp that’s afraid to let women know he desires them.
You see, there are only two motivating forces in life: Desire and Fear.
That’s it. We are motivated purely by what we feel we WANT, and what we feel we most want to avoid.
Fear is a stronger motivator for humans because it helped us survive potentially life-threatening situations. You’re smart to fear wild animals, or large trains heading toward you. You can’t afford the luxury of analysis in these situations. A delay could cost you your life.
On the other hand, in our modern society, there isn’t much you need to fear. In fact, we fear too much already.
And the fear that is most crippling is the fear of LOSS.
Everyone’s favorite short green dude, Yoda, even said it in the latest Star Wars flick… “Fear of loss leads to the dark side.”
And so it does. It leads you down a path where you never gain because you’re too afraid of losing what you have.
An Alpha Man understands that the only way to live is to wake up each day and understand that everything you have was just given back to you today. And when he goes to sleep at night, he gives it all back.
Lose this attraction to your possessions before they possess you…
Whoah, I’m getting very philosophical here.
What I’m trying to get across to you here is that you should avoid becoming attached, even to TERMINOLOGY.
When someone tells you that being an Alpha is bad, or it’s this and that, remember that they’re trying to color your perception. They’re trying to steer you away from a path of understanding and enlightenment.
Trust your own intelligence to figure out what an Alpha Man REALLY is.
He’s already inside of you. It just takes a little work to let this instinct out so that you can become the COMPLETE you.
There are a lot of guys out there who haven’t been able to open themselves up to letting out this TRUE nature inside them. They hide it behind “Politically Correct” BS about not hurting other people’s feelings, or being sensitive.
It’s really a fear to let other people see the REAL you. The man that wants to achieve. The man that wants women in his life. The man that wants monetary success. The man that wants power over the forces of life that seem to control him.
Forget about all this “Alpha” talk and just open your mind up to finding this part of you that isn’t held back by fear, and is ready to reach out for understanding that could – and will – change your life for the better.
So on one hand we have the lowly AFC, or non-Alpha. He’s a little insecure, possibly low self-esteem, but WANTS to grow and change.
On the other hand we have the Alpha, the confident and assertive man with healthy communication and self-esteem.
There is only one direction of growth here, and it’s from the AFC to the Alpha. And what is the Alpha? He’s a MODEL.
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