You know, it’s funny. So many of guys ask me for tips and advice on women’s body language.
You want to know what it means when a woman is standing in a certain way or has her arms folded in a certain way. The problem with this, is that you are concentrating on the other person in the wrong way.
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My Opinion
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Let me explain and go more deeply into this. Let’s talk more about how to start concentrating on the RIGHT things when you Meet a woman.
When you concentrate on and really listen to what someone is saying, your body language is going to reflect that interest to them. The other person will know you are interested and intrigued by them.
When a woman sees you doing this, she will naturally start to loosen up her own body language. She will do this because she knows you’re listening to her and connecting with her.
Women are all about connecting with a man. A woman will also start to relax because you are relaxed.
The problem is a lot of guys do the reverse of this. They start talking AT a woman (instead of WITH her), and then they start looking for body language clues from her.
They think things like
“What does her body language say?” or
“Her arms are folded. What does that mean?”
The problem is that you’re viewing things in the wrong way and the wrong order.
You are the leader, and you need to lead by example. What I mean is that when you go and talk to a woman, her body language most often is going to follow yours.
So if your body language is strong and shows interest in her, then her body language is going to follow yours and reflect signs of interest in you. If your face is engaged – you’re smiling and your eyes are focused in on her eyes – and you are paying real attention to her, then her body language will follow yours.
So you need to stop worrying about her body language all the time, and start paying attention to all the details. I have stressed this throughout every part of every lesson that I’ve ever given.
You truly need to become a leader in life. You need to become that kind of man who leads by example.
I never worry about other people’s body language because I always listen and pay attention to the details. I always communicate what I’m feeling and what I’m all about to others. If you do this, you are not only going to see your interaction with women change…
But you are going to see your life change.
If you want to learn the best ways to make your approaches and early connections with women be a complete SUCCESS, and if you want to learn the best ways to approach women with complete confidence (but without using any “lines” or routines), then this is a letter you need to check out:
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David Wygant has become one of the media’s most sought-after personalities. His energy and insight into dating, sex and relationships — no matter whether it’s on the Internet, over the radio airwaves, on television, in the country’s biggest magazines and newspapers, or in person — are contagious and inspiring. David offers a wide variety of products for men looking to meet amazing women, find love, improve their sex life, enhance their relationship, or just develop real inner confidence.
My Opinion:
David does bring up a few great points.
- One…guys being too worried about trying to figure her out.
- Two…guys not leading her enough.
I believe he gives you two choices. Either worry about what her body language is saying or if she’s open to you. Or you can make sure your body language opens up her. Your body leads her in the right direction.
This is what I believe create her body language really means and it works perfect because One, you won’t get stuck trying to figure her out and Two, women seek out challenging leaders.
Remember, women are much better at figuring out your body language because deep down inside them they want you to lead them. Men are generally speaking worse at reading her body language for the exact reasons I mention about her. Because you were born to lead with your body language and not too follow.
When you get caught up in trying to always figure out what her body is saying your hard wired brain goes in to “shock.”
Imagine you’re a digital watch. Simple hardware. An electrical path goes from the timing chip to the led display. It’s hard wired that way in the same sense your body language is wired to your mind. When left alone it works perfectly almost every time.
What if you were to add a wire which sends the led back to the timing mechanism and each time the clock hit an arbitrary time like 8:57, (talking to a woman) it would ask the timer what to do next and would refuse to do anything else until it got new directions.
Most likely the watch would only work until it hit 8:57 because it would get stuck in a loop causing the entire system to go into shock.
In a way when you go against your natural flow of mind to body (confident mind = confident body, relaxed mind = relaxed body,) your mind ends up stuck in a loop which causes the rest of your mind to sit on the sidelines waiting for the loop to end so it can finish the job it already knows how to do.
Communicate.
Staying out of this loop is easy when you get the handle of it. It does not take too long at all. But adding this loop to you’re anxiety over the approach can cause failure after failure and ruin your chances of meeting some incredible women.
Luckily this loop and anxiety are connected so once you begin to unravel a piece it gets easier. Less anxiety equates to a relaxed body and so on until all the Dominoes fall.
David’s a cool guy and I believe you’ll enjoy his no nonsense approach to teaching. But I don’t want that to be the reason you give his Master Communicator a try. I want you to pick it up because you’re ready to break that loop. You’re ready to learn how to lead her and then lead the conversation and at the same time you want to finally rid yourself of some left over primitive instinct of anxiety. (As it pertains to just talking to women when you think about it a fear of speaking to a woman is absurd.)
Think hard about this…women are attracted to personalities more than looks. I don’t care what you look like if you know how to communicate to women without the loop and without the anxiety you can attract any women you desire.
Dave’s program will teach you exactly how to do it every step of the way. You can create her body language. You can be her leader. And women will follow.
One last note but don’t go away because it’s a very important one.
Take a look at the picture I put up for this post. I didn’t just do it so you can check out a hot woman’s body. I did because…get ready now…
If you’re not leading her body language and you end up trying to follow hers…
How masculine will you be for her when you’re creating that type of feminineness.
Her feminine body will follow your masculine lead and if you don’t lead you’ll appear feminine. Unfortunately too many women will always choose the man who can be that masculine guy for her even when she has to put up with the macho bullshit of a jerk. Because at least his body language is masculine.
You don’t have to be that jerk and you can still exhibit the four keys to attraction:
Leadership. Communication. Confidence. Masculinity.
No More Approach Anxiety – Master Communicator
Peter White – My Nice Guy’s Approach To Attraction – DiaLteG™
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