When you consider dating a woman, more than likely you consider dinner and a movie, right?

You go out and doing things with the woman while you get to know her.

Consider for a moment that this is a misconception about dating.

See, most guys use the concept of “going out” with a girl to mean that there is some romantic ulterior motive there, and that is not always the case.

Let’s go over some of the most common mistakes guys make when “dating” a girl…

Mistake #1:  Guys use dates as opportunities to “Impress” women.

Lots of guys think they have something to prove on dates.  They “have to get her to like me!“  So they’ll try and take her to fancy places to show her a memorable time, and they’ll try and brag about themselves to come off as important.

Mistake #2: Buying your way into the heart of a woman.

This is not a good idea, since you cannot spend enough money on a woman to encourage them to keep dating you. The majority of women today could care less how much you might spend on a date with them.

Mistake #3: Activities are meaningless!

Going out and doing things with someone does not mean as much as you think it might. Simply going on dates does not encourage a womans interest for you. You cannot create romantic interest by just spending time together.

Mistake #4: Sabotaging yourself with boredom!

Nothing is worse than going out on a date where there is no spark or chemistry.  Some guys get so nervous on dates, that they sabotage themselves by being a boring dud.  They talk about mundane things, display little or no personality, and just go through the motions hoping not to screw anything up.

Mistake #5: Following a pattern for failure.

Some men have a preconceived ideal of dating, how they think things should happen, and then they rigidly follow that perception. They may go out on a dinner date, while they ask her all the same questions as their other dates. This eliminates all the spontaneous fun of interacting with the woman.

So what does it mean to date a woman?

Simple:

Dating is the process of building comfort, strengthening emotional connections, and building attraction!

Where you go and the amounts of money you spend are not important, what is important is your ability to connect with the woman you are dating and positively encouraging the way she feels about you.

This is the key to why many men can go on a cheap date with a woman, while sweeping her off her feet, while other men may overspend on creative dating and get absolutely nowhere with the woman.

You should completely focus on how you can increase your emotional connection with the woman you date.

Talk about your shared interests.  Talk about your passions.  Try and figure out what her hopes and dreams are.

Learn to rephrase your questions, rather than wanting to know where she works, ask her some interesting and fun questions, such as If you could do anything you wish, what would you wish to do?

Above all, you should just have fun and enjoy yourself!

Crack jokes – even if they’re not good.  Have fun.  Steer the conversation toward subjects she finds interesting.  Be curious about who she is.

More importantly, never shy away from relationship discussions.

Some men fear bringing up the subject of romance while out on a date, however, to build sexual tension while magnifying the attraction, you must.

Be a little wicked by flirting and joking with her, as this will encourage and build the attraction she has for you and then you can move on to the next level of your relationship.

Joseph Matthews

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