“How do I know if a girl is interested in me? I find it hard to read her attraction to me when I’m so busy trying to show her my self-confidence?”
The key to this question is understanding your correct attitude: You don’t NEED her to like you. It’s okay to WANT it, but don’t become so attached to every encounter with a woman that you end up NEEDING her to like you. That’s the train to nowhere, and it will leave soon if you even begin to go that route.
There are many indicators of a girl’s interest in you. You just have to know where to look. The primary three are these:
- Actions (What she does that indicates her interest obviously)
- Words (what she says to you)
- Body language (what she does that indicates her interest subtly)
These are also in order.
You trust her actions first, her words next, and her body language after that.
- If you’re getting clear buying signals in her actions, ignore her words.
- If you get interest from her words, ignore her body movements.
- Your last resort is to interpret her body language.
What about sexual energy?
1.) The first indicator is her actions to tell you she likes you.
Always watch what she does first, and ignore her words if they don’t jive with the way she behaves. Here are a short list of “she’s interested” indicators:
- She touches you or leans in close
- She makes it a point to smell your cologne
- She takes you along with her to another bar/dance club
- She initiates conversation with you
- She asks for your number (but only if she asks before or after giving hers. If she refuses to give you her number, she’s not interested.)
- She looks you over (especially glances at your mouth)
2) The next thing you listen to is her words.
What does she say to you?
Here’s a list of things that indicate her interest verbally:
- She asks a lot of questions about you
- She talks about sexual topics (without you initiating them)
- She uses very sensual words when describing you
- She tells you secrets (indicating trust)
3) This next list is more difficult, since you will have to refine your radar as to what her body language is saying.
It’s much more subtle, and more difficult to read. Again, I always suggest that you make sure to judge her body language only when you have no other evidence to help you out.
Here are some buying indicators:
- Occasional glance(s) from far away
- Looks at you a few times (flickering glances at your lips)
- Holds your gaze for a moment with no words
- Looks down, then away
- Goes out of her way to laugh with you
- Posture changes, looks alert
- Covers her mouth or touches her face
- Adjusts hair, attire
- Faces you
- Alert, energetic
- Pupils are dilated
- Open posture (arms uncrossed)
Remember that your primary indication of interest from any woman is in her behavior. No matter what she says, if she isn’t DOING the things that a woman that would do who is interested (smiles and talks to you, shows interest, gives you her phone number, etc.) she isn’t REALLY interested. She’s just trying to not hurt your feelings.
Results are the TRUTH!
Author Credit:
Carlos Xuma is one not just of the top dating coaches in the world…
He’s a speaker. A Motivator. An inspiration to guys everywhere who are tired of failing with women and who are ready to make a change. His methods combine a unique blend of eastern philosophy, intelligence, and humor, with a real edge to guarantee your success.
The biggest problem you’ll have with Carlos is deciding which product to buy first.
This will not be a problem at Attraction Transformation because it’s here you to get to review what Carlos has to offer, before you make your decision. I will do my best to guide you to the perfect product for you, based on the reasons you have read in each lesson he has given us for free.
-Thanks Carlos for all your contributions and for helping guys everywhere become Alpha.
-I also want to thank you on behalf of the lucky women your students meet because what you teach is not designed to trick women. I know from my personal experience with women they appreciate a real man and hot some guy with a bag of tricks.
A Few More Related Posts to Review By Carlos:
If you’re not getting the signs or women just don’t seem that interested in you. You’ll want to read a little about how to attract women.
Maybe you’re not understanding her body language. Perhaps you’re making too many mistakes and misreading women, thinking they are interested in you. But then get rejected because you were wrong. You can finally learn here from Carlos…
If you’ve been meeting enough women to bring you to try and understand if they are interested in you, but you’re tired of playing from that side. It’s always a first rule of mine is to just get them interested in me and I never have to worry about whether she wants me or not. The post below says it all in the title. You’re meeting women and you want to know how to gain their interest in you.
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My Opinion:
I don’t think I could have put it any better Carlos.
I’ve recently started a series for women on the truth about men. I’ve found myself constantly saying “men just do not get all the signs a woman is giving them.”
It’s great to know every man who flips through this post and reads it a few times will undoutedbly lower the percentage of men missing the signals you are giving them.
I was always taught women do not want to lead a men or teach him how to attract her. It does not even matter much to her where he learned it from. Just as long as he took the time to understand her better than the average guy. The men who do that, follow the tips in the post, and LEAD her from there, are almost certain to create more opportunities than the man who misses all the signs she is interested in him.
This and much more is a huge eason Carlos is the biggest influence in my life with regards to learning, understanding, and living a more attractive life.
Thanks again Carlos for all your insight.
Peter White – My Nice Guy’s Approach To Attraction – DiaLteG™
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Peter White says:
His emails are incredibly intuitive. When I first got in this “business” I though I knew a lot, and I did.
But Carlos made me step up and showed me confidently, how far I’ve come, but also how there’s so much more I could learn.
When any man who is willing to learn and do the work dives deep into his material he sells or gives away for free, he can literally change their lives with women forever.
Thanks for the comment Adam. I appreciate you stopping by and getting your refresher course from Carlos.