Once you’ve registered on your local dating or matchmaking site you’ll soon start sparking the interest of other members – yippee, somebody out there likes you! But it’s important to resist the temptation to reply in a gush of gratitude and relief. You need to be cool and reel in your fish carefully. Being too enthusiastic just looks desperate. Some people even advise that you should never reply to messages at night or on the weekend.
In our book ‘First Date Magic’ we suggest that might be a little extreme, but it will certainly help give you an air of mystery, which is a good thing.
Probably a more realistic option is not to respond too quickly – give it at least four to six hours, and never reply on the same day to messages received after 5pm. You’ll keep them on their toes, but still keep the ball rolling if they look interesting.
What’s more, it’s a good idea to minimize the time you spend online browsing for potential dates. The reason is that other users of your dating site can usually see if you’re logged in when they’re looking at your profile and if they spot you online too often, that looks desperate too.
So take it slow and when you reply, politely thank them for their interest and ask them a question or two that occurred to you when you read their profile. However this is also the time to stop contact if you aren’t interested in them. Just let them know politely that you don’t think you would be compatible (no explanation necessary) and wish them well.
But if things progress you’ll probably trade a few messages over several days while you decide whether you’d like to meet them offline, or in other words the ‘old school’ way – on a date.
Of course there is much to know about getting great first dates, online and in person, and making true love appear for you. Luckily there’s finally somewhere you can go to get all the answers in one place –
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