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Honestly, and I’m not afraid to admit I laughed my ass off when I first watched this video. I even passed it on to a few friends of mine to share it with them. I’m sure they’re laughing their asses off  too.

But then it hit me. These are real guys. Sure they’re probably older or not with us anymore but when I really thought about them being just men looking for a woman, it hurt. I felt the pain inside me because they are men who just do not seem to get what attraction is really all about and how to be a date that woman want to experience more of him, or get a second date.

I know most of you guys reading this are thinking you are not like that at all. You’re well aware of how you act on dates. You may even be slightly offended at what I am gong to suggest next.

And that is, you may not appear this way to yourself. You may even know how to dress. You may even go out on lots of dates.  But if you’re failing or struggling to have successful dates you are actually appearing this way to women.

So let’s find out what we can really learn from this humorous video on men looking to get more dates and use it to get the advantage of a second date.

Let’s also disregard any looks or fashion at this time. The video is old and outdated.

Let’s take a closer look at the words and how they choose to project their words. Let’s look behind the humor and begin to understand why I believe you are projecting these images to women with out even knowing it.

I’m going to quote a few of their words:

“Stay up late at night and watch you sleep.”

This may sound romantic to Jeff but to a woman, it’s creepy. Unless you’re in a long-term relationship this is not romance and should never be used in this context. The woman would rather hear from her husband something like this,

“Good morning honey. Ah I’m so tired baby. I woke up in the middle of the night and I just could not get back to sleep. I saw you sleeping next to me and I watched you for a few minutes. I felt utterly and completely excited to be by your side. Almost like a child waiting for Santa Claus and the joy they feel in the morning. You know honey, each day I wake up by your side, happier than the last, because you have enhanced my life more than you will ever know. And I just wanted to let you know how no matter how tough things can be at times, you are  the greatest present I have ever received. “

If you’re a man you must understand what romance is really all about and use it sparingly. Otherwise these romantic sounding ideas in your head eventually manifest themselves in your words that actually sound creepy to a woman.

“I’m sick of playing the field.”

Telling a woman you’re sick of playing the field screams neediness. It implies you have experienced failure after failure with your dates. And most women assume it was you, not them. Avoid the topics of past dates entirely unless you have a mind-blowing story of a friend who experienced one of the worst but funny dates in history.

“Looks are not that important… anymore.”

This tells her you’ve given up on finding someone you are attracted to. Women will assume you do not feel attractive enough. But more importantly a woman will assume you honestly believe women are only into your looks. Which is far from the truth. Most women only care about how you make them feel. Make them feel safe, happy, and excited around and she will want to see you again.

It is best to altogether avoid talking about the negativity in your life. And it is better to never tell your date, looks are not that important. Would you want a woman to say that to you? How attractive would you then feel after she said it?

“I only need…one you.”

Never use the words need and you in one sentence when you are out on a date. Never even by accident. Learn to use confident optimistic words. Erase need from your vocabulary when dating. I mean it. Never use it. For example. You don’t need to use the bathroom, just say “Hey, I’ll be right back.” She will figure it out.

I know this sounds small and perhaps you’re thinking, this can not possibly help me to get a second date and it might not. But I can guarantee if you use the word need, you, and words similar to them often, you won’t get a second date 9 times out of ten.

“I like a woman with a wild side.”

Honestly guys if you yourself don’t live a wild lifestyle, why would you look for a woman with a wild side. The truth behind this statement is that he is looking for a woman to take control of his life. He won’t try anything wild for himself. So he wants to get the woman to be creative and wild for him. She assumes he is not a leader and she will have to do all the work for him. Women just don’t want to lead around their man. If you want a woman with a wild side, show her your wild side. If she’s up for it then you found a wild woman. Have fun!

“A woman that is openly sexual.”

It’s your job as a man to open a woman up sexually. Sure some women are tougher than others. But even the most average woman harbors fantasies that would make even me blush. So quit trying to get in her mind, and feed her emotional state. Learn to open her up sexually yourself. You see most men love the librarian look because they sense a wild woman deep inside her will come out in bed.

That may be true but I also feel the men who crave this type of woman more than anything else are again, not leading. They want her be extremely sexually with him without him having to do any work. It’s lazy. It’s also presumptuous that women in general are not sexual creatures. And worst of all it screams you are not confident in your ability to lead her sexually.

Learn everything you can about all the different types of personalities women have and then open them up yourself. Lead them sexually and if you do it right, most women will open right up for you.

Take this Profiling Quiz for types of Women by Clicking here. It’s short and there are no opt-ins. Please enjoy it while it lasts.

NEXT….

Let’s take a quick peek into the body language of these men and what to avoid doing yourself when you are on a date. Sure these men are nervous because they are on camera, but being nervous is being nervous. When you’re on a date sometimes you will feel like you are on stage. Like everyone is watching your performance. Everyone else there with you might not be watching…but she is. She is your camera.

Husam – Notice his nervous mannerisms and shaking eyelids. This is aside from his lack of ability to peak the English language. He is soft-spoken and not confident about what is coming out of his mouth.

Jeff - He won’t look into the camera. He probably will not look into his dates eyes either.  And when he does it appears creepy and scripted. His eyes also widen numerously. If you do this women will see it as a nervous tick or worse yet, that you are not interested in her. Jeff is creeping out women but projecting the face of someone who is being creeped out. See how that works. You project what you feel about yourself without even knowing it.

Louie – He’s a used car guy who likes to barbecue. Haha! Couldn’t help that one. Actually his facial expressions are not that bad. But they seem inconsistent to who he is. You can easily tell when he fails to get his true attractive personality across, he is hiding being his salesman act. Notice how he fidgets more when he speaks of what he does for a living. This is an extreme lack of confidence in his career, and hence his life.

David – He was the one who likes a woman to be open, sexually. His was a little short to notice too much but I did see a connection between his looks and him wanting sex. I know this sounds small but if you want her to be more sexual, please avoid extraneous facial hair. It hides your sensual parts on your face for her to get turned on by, and it also feels awful when you kiss her or down on her. ( David seems to have a habit of lurching down when he speaks. Almost like he is talking to a child. It makes others feel like they are always being talked down too, even if it is not meant.)

Frank – Frank snarls a lot. Which is not only terribly unattractive but gives his voice a nasally sounding tone. If he would relax his snarl and speak more openly with his mouth, women will focus on his words more intuitively and less on his snarl. We must learn to use all of what we have to convey who we are effectively. Women prefer men who can do this. He could be the smartest man in the world but will fail in dating with her if he fails to convey how smart he really is.

I want to conclude this page by first wishing you all the best of luck in getting that second date. The impressions you make on women go a lot deeper and are based on all the little things that many of us seem to forget. This video brings everything out in our face and it makes us laugh, but there is so much we can learn from watching it. The video has just magnified it all.

I am still offering everyone the ability to listen to a great .mp3 on making first impressions and getting the second date. When you get a chance you may want to listen to it. The instructions on how to download are listed at the bottom of this post, How Lucky Are You In Dating? 5 Steps to Increase It Today For Men.

Two last notes…

One – Watch Melvin carefully. It may not appear to everyone, but this man I bet has had great success with women. You can comment below if you want me to explain further.

Two – If you learned nothing from this post please enjoy the laugh and do not be afraid ton talk about this video on a first date. She will love it. Just remember to tell it properly.

Good luck on getting those second dates guys,
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Peter White – My Nice Guy’s Approach To Attraction – DiaLteG™

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