Do Men Really Have Feelings? Thoughts of A Man

I feel us guys take a bad rap. Women often assume we don’t think too deeply. They assume we don’t have emotions or we don’t have feelings. I believe this could not be further from the truth.

I can’t tell you how many times I have heard a woman say,

“But I don’t want to hurt his feelings.”

So women everywhere do their best to avoid hurting a man’s feeling. They will often come up with excuse after excuse thinking they are sparing a man of the truth. Therefore to avoid hurting him but more importantly to her, making her feel good about not being mean.

There seems to be a huge contradiction going on there.

Every man struggles to grip with their emotions. We’re guys right? We’re not supposed to show our emotions. We’re not supposed to be all moody and shit. We’re supposed to be strong, dominant, and we’re not allowed to bend or break easily to the pressures in our lives.

When a man shows too much emotion, he’s considered a wussy. When he shows too little emotion, he’s considered unfeeling and crass. So somewhere in the middle lies the man we’re supposed to be.

Before I go off on a complete different topic and start ramblings let me dispel a myth about men…

We have feelings. Lots of them. We experience emotional highs and lows. We experience love, excitement, and orgasms.

The biggest difference is we think more logically. That’s all. Our brains may be similarly constructed but it’s a known fact women have these tiny nerve bundles connecting the left half of the brain with the right half.

Gurian agrees that culture is significant in brain development, but argues that biology plays an equally important role. He makes a point of how the MRI scans show that the female corpus callosum, the center of the brain which regulates communication between the brain’s hemispheres, is larger than the male’s. On the other hand, the scans also show that information flows more freely between the hemispheres of the male brain.

Study claims to show difference between male and female brains

http://en.wikinews.org/wiki/Study_claims_to_show_difference_between_male_and_female_brains

Us men.. well we just don’t have as many. It is not so pronounced. And with good reason.

Imagine yourself way back when you either killed your food to eat, or you died. Simple as that. And when it comes down to the moment of pouncing on our prey the last thing we need to be focusing on is how our lunch is feeling. The last thing we need to think about is how we’re feeling as we’re doing it.

We would starve and I would certainly not be around to be writing this.

Granted the world is much different now than it was “way back then“.

The mind is a wonderful piece of equipment and adapts quickly to it’s surroundings. So now we have more men that learn to use those connection more than others. (They are usually those nice guys that way too emotional over one woman and act like a wussy when they are attracted to someone.)

And there are women that have learned to think more one sided. No doubt about that.

So aside from all these advanced learning we have managed to develop through childhood man or woman, we’re still mammals. Mammals with feelings that just have a slightly different way of displaying them.

Men really do have feelings! Even the most stoic people who seem impervious to thoughts of any kind of emotions are experiencing these rushes of emotional ups and downs and it is felt in exactly same way as any overly emotional women.

Men really do have feelings and the greatest most secure men are not afraid of them, although we won’t always show them. And trust me, a good woman appreciates we we won’t wear our heart on her sleeve, no matter what she says.

But that’s an entirely different post…

Peter White – My Nice Guy’s Approach To Attraction – DiaLteG™