Don’t be in such a hurry to get into a relationship, guys. I just read an article on CNN.com, relating a survey that tracked 24,000 people and showed that marriage does NOT make you more happy.
(Gee, we needed a survey for this?)
Not that marriage can’t be fulfilling, but it is not a cure-all to your unhappiness.
You have to be happy FIRST.
This survey also showed that people who were more satisfied with their lives before they were married were more likely to stay married longer.
Hmm.
Gosh, that’s an incredible discovery.
I’ve always said that most guys are in too much of a hurry to get into a relationship. Typically we want to lock in a woman as “steady” so that we can escape the singles world. We want regular sex, the satisfaction of having a woman who can hang out with us and do things with. A female ‘pal.’
But also realize that you can get these things through dating and short-term relationships as well. It doesn’t feel quite as ‘secure’ as locking in a girlfriend does. We want security, in the end.
Let’s look at security another way:
How about having the security that you can talk to and attract almost any woman at any time, using just a few tried and true principles? How about the security of being able to date MANY women at once, and not have to feel like you’re begging for sex?
You need to spread your risk with women.
It’s just like investing in the stock market. You diversify to cover yourself from a real loser.
You will encounter a lot of women out there who do not develop or focus at all on their own lives. These women are scattered all over the place, looking to fulfill their Cinderella dreams with the addition of a man/boyfriend/husband. If you’re not feeling capable and comfortable with being single and getting your needs for affection/sex/accompaniment met, you’ll tend to let one of these women corral you into the belief that you must be serially monogamous – that you can date only one woman at a time, and ONLY get sex by jumping through her hoops.
It’s not true.
You must date MANY women to give you the experience, successes, and understanding that put you on the upward spiral of success.
There is no more security in having a girlfriend than there is in being a single, Dynamic man with the ability to create the dating life HE wants.
If you feel intimidated or scared by the thought of giving up the girl you’ve got, even if the situation you’re in with her is painful, you’re not truly free. You’re not truly secure. You’re at HER mercy.
Develop a full and complete life without a woman.
If you aren’t happy being single, you won’t be happy being a couple.
And if you feel good on your own, you’ll be able to take charge and feel that you can go it alone if it doesn’t work out.
Author Credit:
Carlos Xuma is one not just of the top dating coaches in the world…
He’s a speaker. A Motivator. An inspiration to guys everywhere who are tired of failing with women and are ready to make a change. His methods combine a unique blend of eastern philosophy, intelligence, and humor to guarantee your success.
The biggest problem you’ll have with Carlos is deciding which product to buy first.
This will not be a problem at Attraction Transformation because it’s here you to get to review what Carlos has to offer, before you make your decision. I will do my best to guide you to the perfect product for you, based on the reasons you have read in each lesson he has given us for free.
-Thanks Carlos for all your contributions and for helping guys everywhere become Alpha.
Review a Few More Posts from Carlos Xuma on Dating Women and Being Single:
- Dating Tips For Men: Time a Problem for Being With Women?- If you want to date more women you’re going to need to learn how to manage your time. In this post Carlos tells you just how to do that – Manage your time and date more.
- How to Meet Single Women – The 3 Best Ways to Meet Women - It’s obvious if you want to date more women you’ll have to meet more of them.
- So, I’ve Been Meeting a Lot of Women, But How Do I Get Them to Like Me? - Now that you’re meeting more women it’s only logical to understand how to get them to like you.
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My Opinion:
I can not emphasize enough the basis for this article and I do this from personal experience.
It’s no secret I was terrible with women. Enough to have me single for almost two decades. Yes!!! Twenty years of the single life. I would not suggest any man attempt this and I won’t get into all the reasons why, but you can understand how I learned to live with myself. How I learned to be a complete man without the need for a partner.
I feel that accelerated my learning process. Once I began my journey to being more attractive, I already had the advantage of not needing a partner. I had all the advantages Carlos mentions about being single in his informative article.
My suggestions to all men is to date as many women as you can socially handle. You’ll make better decisions. You’ll have choices. You’ll have the advantage of learning about her, and learning how you two interact. When done right you will experience better relationships because you will enter them as a more complete man.
It’s a well known fact relationships are much more fulfilling when entered by two complete people. The average man or woman has been made to believe finding someone to complete them is the way to happiness. I don’t feel it is.
I want a woman in my world to enhance my life, and I want to enhance her already incredible life.
Stay single for a while guys. Look for the education to become more complete and you’ll have so much more to offer to any woman you finally decide to commit to.
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