I just couldn’t help myself…In here, I’m going to share with you my response to an email I received from a reader.
It highlights one of the most prevalent MINDSET PROBLEMS that keep women from having the successful relationships they want.
And it’s so frustrating for me because I see so many FANTASTIC women SABOTAGE their own dating success by having this mindset.
So when I got this email the other day, I decided I absolutely needed to share it with all of you.
I could feel this woman’s pain and frustration coming right through the computer screen…
Have you ever felt like this woman?
If so, then you need to pay attention to what I told this woman.
So keep reading…
READER EMAIL QUESTION:
“David, I have so many first dates. How come I don’t get a second date? Why are so many men not attracted to me?
Ann
Ontario”
MY ANSWER:
“Hey Ann,
Let’s break this down…
When you’re out on a date, are you being flirtatious?
**Are you complimenting the guy?
**Are you touching him at all on his arm? On his shoulder?
**Are you leaning in when he speaks?
**Are you smiling and laughing at his stupid jokes?
Basically, think about how much time are you spending in the moment and flirting versus how much time you are spending thinking about how much he likes you?
In order to secure a second date, you need to realize that you may need to go on 50 first dates before you have a second date.
STOP JUDGING YOUR DATING LIFE!
Don’t worry about your “batting average,” but instead enjoy each date, be present in the moment, and be flirtatious.
That way, when you meet guys with whom you have a connection, you will not sabotage yourself and you WILL be getting second dates.
David”
I know what you’re thinking,
“David, what do you mean I might have to go on 50 dates before I get a second date?”
That is obviously an extreme example to make a point…
…BUT what you need to take away from it is that it’s your ATTITUDE and MINDSET that needs to change.
Dating is all about learning how to relate with yourself.
It’s not about keeping statistics and judging yourself on numbers that don’t mean anything.
When you learn to truly relate to yourself, you will have no trouble getting second dates.
- If you believe that you’re a great person and that you’re a fantastic catch, then you’ll get second dates.
- If you embrace your body, your face and your mind, YOU WILL GET SECOND DATES.
- If you flirt with men so that they know you are sexually interested in them, then you will get second dates.
The only way to learn how to do this, is to go out on “throw away dates.” These are dates that are going to teach you how to flirt, how to relax, and how to feel totally comfortable around men.
To those of you that have read my blog, or listened to any of my courses, you know that I teach you how to do “hello practice.”
This is one of the BEST TOOLS to getting confident around men!
“Hello practice” is where you say hello to EVERYONE you see, so that you’re more relaxed when you speak to men.
In order to be a “good dater,” you have to go out and date. It may take you 10 dates … or it may take you 50 dates.
Once you’re relaxed in the presence of a man, you WILL start to see your second date ratio increase.
So, get out of the house, put up a profile on match.com, and do whatever it takes. Start accepting as many dates as you can.
After all … a date a day keeps the love doctor away.
This is something that you CAN do, and that you NEED to do right away. There are no shortcuts.
There’s also no excuse or reason why you can’t be totally confident and successful in your dating life.
Part of doing this is to break through all of your fears and excuses…
…when you do that you will never be frustrated by your dating life again – and will in fact begin to TRULY ENJOY IT!
If you want to learn more about how to permanently eliminate ALL your fears and excuses, and how to be 100% comfortable around ANY man, then click here for more information:
No Excuses
Author Credit:
David Wygant has become one of the media’s most sought-after personalities. His energy and insight into dating, sex and relationships — no matter whether it’s on the Internet, over the radio airwaves, on television, in the country’s biggest magazines and newspapers, or in person — are contagious and inspiring. David offers a wide variety of products for women looking to meet amazing men, find love, improve their sex life, enhance their relationship, or just develop real inner confidence.
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My Opinion:
(Peter White)
I once too was stuck so far inside my head, judging my own actions, and worrying so much if what I was doing wrong, there was no possible way to relax and enjoy the moment.
Saying “Hello” to me meant I might have to engage in a conversation thought would have me rejected.
I have learned through many people like David, once you get out of your own way and stop making excuses, you begin to learn to live in the moment. You’re going to make mistakes, you’re going to experience failures, you can not avoid this. But this should never stop you from enjoying each and every date no matter how they turn out.
In order to enjoy these dates requires having a free mind and it helps to learn what David speaks of in this article. I find too many women avoid dates because they don’t have enough fun or they set themselves up for failure. They do this because their focus is not on the moment but the outcome and the constant judging of themselves and/or the date they are with.
You must without a doubt “JUST HAVE FUN”. That’s it. Flirt a little. Lose yourself in the moment. No pressure for a second date. No pressure to live up to his standards. No pressure to live up to your own high standards you want him to perceive coming from you.
Please ladies, I can not advise you enough to go out on as many dates as possible. The big picture becomes clearer, your choices go up, and you will benefit in more ways than just having fun what it all comes into view.
Please stop making excuses.
Give yourself a little time everyday of your life to enjoying yourself. Work on the serious problems step by step. It’s not really that much when you think about it.
I understand you will go off course once in a while so just find your way back. Don’t expect to change everything all at once. Just expect yourself to make the decision to do the little things,whether it means saying hello, or finding that attractive person inside you.
Follow his advice and these simple guidelines and your dating life will change before your very eyes.
Peter White – My Nice Guy’s Approach To Attraction – DiaLteG™
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Why You Need To Start Thinking Like A Man
If you can think like a man you can attract him.
Don’t worry David is not telling you have to be a guy to understand them, you just have to understand how they think so you’re not confused by them. And it helps you make better connections.
You get five good reasons why he feels you must start thinking like a man. You’ll never again have to scream,
“I just don’t GET men!!!”
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You don’t have to change everything about you to become more attractive to men.
Your lifestyle can easily do that for you with some helpful advice from David. You can learn them right here, right now and start enjoying a more attractive lifestyle tomorrow. Embrace every moment starting with the words you’re about to read and you’re already on your way.
Who Calls First Online?
The “rules” of dating are hard to understand and even more confusing to follow.
David understands this and will show you exactly what to do about the so-called rules of dating online. When you’re flirting with a guy and you have exchanged numbers, read this advice before you do anything and you’ll be much better off.
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Shyness can literally put the brakes on having any remarkable dating life.
You don’t have to be shy anymore. You don’t have to drive yourself crazy just trying to “hi” to guys anymore. In this post you’ll learn exactly how to eliminate much of your dating shyness. It’s time to stop talking yourself out of meeting men and start taking action on this great advice.
Change Your Dating Life By Taking ATTRACTION ACTION
Stop worrying and start taking action in your dating life.
David and I both know you want amazing relationships. Who doesn’t. Except when you’re constantly thinking about the rules, whether he likes, what you must do next with him, you’re far from taking action in your dating life. You’re going to learn what Attraction Action and how it can lead to finally have control over your dating life.
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