I’ve become convinced that most guys spend their entire lives feeling like victims of “Murphy’s Law” when it comes to attracting and maintaining relationships with women.
Surely you know Murphy well yourself.  He’s the guy who famously proclaimed,

“Anything that can go wrong will go wrong, and at the worst possible time.”

I’ll be the first to admit, Murphy probably was on to something. After all, whenever I get into the shortest line at the bank, post office or grocery store, it’s amazing how it magically becomes the longest line simply because I’m standing in it.

Invariably, the guy in front of me has his credit card declined, forgot something in the car, or needs “manager approval“. And of course, this always happens when I have somewhere else to be in ten minutes.

Really, it happens to the best of us, doesn’t it?

Your tire goes flat in the middle of the desert at 2 am.

The airline’s computers are a mess at the check-in counter and you miss the last plane out for the night as a result.  And tomorrow morning is the Big Meeting.

You go to a restaurant specifically because they have the most amazing prime rib in town.  And when you order the waiter informs you that they 86ed prime rib ten minutes ago.

Murphy’s Law.

How does it apply to your dating life?

You wait and wait in order to get the gumption to approach a woman on the first day of class.  Finally, after a week of getting your act together, you decide “today’s the day“. Then you see her in the hallway holding hands with some other guy.

Or, you discover a woman online whose profile outshines all others. You take an extra day or two crafting the most killer first email of all time.  You go to send it to her, and her profile is gone.

Or, you’ve actually met a great woman.  You think that things are going great. In fact, you decide she’s pretty much everything you’ve ever wanted in a woman.  She was even hinting already that she wanted an exclusive relationship. Just when you’re forming the perfect words in the mirror to use in order to make that a reality, the phone rings.  She tells you her ex-boyfriend called and they’re getting back together.

The simple fact is that Murphy’s Law is a metaphor we typically use to describe how we’ve been victimized in some way. By now, you know how I feel about having a “victim’s mindset“. Let’s just say that women aren’t attracted to it.

Now, perhaps for the first time in your life, imagine what would happen if instead of being victimized by Murphy’s Law, you instead joined Murphy’s “law enforcement team”.

What if you could be Murphy’s Law?

Relax.  I’m not going to tell you “victimize” someone.   This is all about you.

What if stuff started going right for you at the best possible time?

If you’re talking about attracting great women and keeping them in your life, you’re probably talking about being a man who succeeds where others misstep. Every guy isn’t going to get every woman he wishes for.

This, by definition, means that were you to succeed with a particularly amazing woman, Murphy’s Law will have applied to every other guy who had his eye on her. This is what I mean by being Murphy’s Law.

When I was in the business world, I came up with a mindset that changed my life.  When making decisions I considered the following:

What decision would my competitors LEAST want me to make?

That’s what being Murphy’s Law looks like.

And sure enough, there were times when a massive bid opportunity would emerge and several companies would slave away to get their best offers in the door. Then, because of some technicality yet another company would surface at the eleventh hour, its offer being admitted to the competition.

Almost invariably, that company that came out of nowhere just days before the award had been planned would win it.  Usually right when another firm thought it had the “inside track” to getting the contract.

All I knew is that I’d much rather be that “eleventh hour” company than one of the others.

Why?

Because that’s what competitors dreaded.  Invariably, that last bid is typically allowed because all other bidders’ proposals were deficient in some way that Johnny Come Lately offered a solution for.

Again…Murphy’s Law.

And therein lies my point.

When it comes to getting what you want when others want it also, the fact is that someone is going to get what he or she wants. Someone is going to–if even by default–act as the “enforcer” of Murphy’s Law while the others suffer under its iron fist. That someone may as well be you.

Here’s your challenge.  From now on, be Murphy’s Law.

When you see that great woman online, envision all the other guys out there puzzling over what to write her. You may even visualize all the other “Mr. Nice Guy” or “Mr. Creepy Guy” emails flooding her inbox.

Then, without hesitation, read that woman’s profile, find what catches your eye about it, challenge her with a creative first e-mail…and expect results.

Be the guy who enthralls her enough to make her want to hide her profile for now–even as other guys are yet in mid-sentence typing to her.

When you see that amazing woman at the airport, realize that 95% of the other men around you would love to talk to her also…but won’t have the guts. Walk up to her, introduce yourself and be the one man who is the “decision maker” for all the other guys who took too much time gathering themselves.

The most phenomenal MOTOS (Members Of The Opposite Sex) on Earth are ALL going to end up with someone.   That is to say, someone is going to succeed where others wonder what went wrong at the worst possible time.

That someone should be you.

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My Opinion:

I felt my opinion on this subject would be no more than to just say, “Cool”. In fact just Scot correlating dating with Murphy’s Law is something I never thought of and I’m glad he made this connection.

Instead I wanted to give a few examples of Murphy’s Law I’ve suffered from or heard of and I urge all who read this to share their own stories, hardships, or even how you beat Murphy at his own law.

•  I blew a hole in my tire right in front of a major auto store. Good luck? Not really. They were closed. Haha! Thanks Murphy!
•  On a two week vacation I did the unthinkable…I attracted three incredibly hot girls…all of which told me the day I was leaving. I never hooked up with any of them because of it. Thanks again Murphy!!!!
•  I was down on my luck one day with not even a dollar to my name to eat. I found twenty dollars on the ground but noticed it belonged to the person walking in front of me. I gave it back and she smiled and thanked me. Hungry and and full of despair, later that evening I found a ten dollar bill nestled in a jacket I never wore. Screw you Murphy!!! I win this time.
•  Ready for this one…My monitor blew out so I called a friend. He said he had one I could use and would bring it to me in a couple hours. I waited patiently and read a book, (thinking I was finally going to be able to get some work done soon.) He dropped it off. I thanked him and he left. I eagerly plugged the monitor in the wall and attempted to hook it up to my computer. GRRRRR!!!! I had the wrong connector…oh it gets worse…
•  I hopped in my car on cold Sunday morning to buy a connector. The first place was out. The second place was closed. The third place didn’t carry it. Discouraged I called my friend up and he said he had one. All I had to do was meet him to pick it up. Woo Hooo!!! I thought. On the way there my car overheated and had to quickly return home before my radiator blew up beyond repair.   SCREW YOU MURPHY I HATE YOU!!!! HAhahahaha!
•  I made an incredible fifty foot plus putt one day during an incredible round of golf. It was magical. I flipped my putter up to catch it in excitement… I flew high in the air, spun around, and smacked me right in the mouth chipping my tooth. I finished the round in pain…bogey…bogey…double bogey…Murphy can kiss my ASS!!!
•  I once dated a woman for a month without having sex. I was young (15) and scared. We broke up because I just wasn’t feeling it. I met her, and her new baby a year later. The next man who make the decision to sleep with her got her pregnant. Did I miss the bullet on this one? Who knows but I still felt Murphy was in my corner on this one.  :)
• Please visit my other page on dating if you wish to add more of your own stories. …BE Murphy’s Law

 

Peter White – My Nice Guy’s Approach To Attraction – DiaLteG™

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