uys are everywhere. Doesn’t help you very much meeting them though, am I right?
First you have the most common dilemmas…
“Do I talk to him first? Do I wait for him to approach me? Should I approach him first and what does that say about me?”
Next you have all the questions…
“What if he’s not interested? What if he has a girlfriend? Did I imagine him staring at me?”
After all that comes the nervousness, the queasiness in your stomach (especially if you find yourself feeling more and more attracted) and even on top of the doubt and mystery as every “what if” crosses your mind, in the end you feel like you’re just relying luck to see you through.
Maybe you get lucky and see the same guy once a day, maybe just once a week.
Maybe fortune and fate bring you together. You bump heads or he drops something in front of you giving you the opportunity to meet him.
Just maybe… BUT
Let me tell you a little something about luck.
LUCK is a guy carrying a condom in his wallet, hoping he’ll get “lucky”.
LUCK is taking a chance by throwing money at a machine and once in a while, the numbers match up AND you get lucky.
LUCK is playing the odds hoping things go your way, that day.
If you ask me, leaving your future happiness in life and relationships and dating to luck just gives you an excuse some people won’t mind sharing with you. (Which I suppose makes it easier to settle for luck.)
You know the empathetic sighs when you hear them.
They’ll tell you, “You’re so unlucky!” or “How life is SO unfair!”, or how “If this happened, then things would be different, but they never do, so I guess WE’RE just not lucky people. Hmmph!”
You’re ALWAYS going to find someone to support your unlucky streak.
Well how about this…?
Luck doesn’t determine your happiness or your success.
“The SUM of your pursuits in life defines who you are. Overcoming Myths About Men – Mistakes, Love, and What Guys Are “Into”
Luck is a probable or chance determined by so many factors NOT ONE PERSON on this planet can ever exactly predict an outcome. Socially speaking of course.
So why rely on something you have little or no control over?
This is what you DO have…
You DO have the power to INCREASE your personal success.
You can start by asking yourself this important question right now,
“What am I doing right?”
Once you know what you’re doing right or what works for you, even the tiniest details, you can now “positively” assess and address your “luck” problem of meeting guys.
For me it was the realization that I have a few remarkable gifts. Creative, a remarkable sense of the details around me, and a real ability to connect with certain people.
Instead of thinking those gifts were going unused because they were not helping me to find a girlfriend, lover, or even a date, I changed my beliefs and started using and reinforcing them.
Tweaked them just a little. 😉
My creativity meant I was particularly good at romance. I had lots of ideas. My old thinking was to use them on “unsuspecting” women but that failed. My new belief told me romance comes later. After attraction. And how I can actually use this creativity to meet women online. “Wow” them in a situation which naturally brought out my stronger points.
omething tells me you have a few things you do good and you’re wasting them by either not using them the right way, or not allowing them to be used naturally in situations where they’re really going to help you succeed.
“Well, it’s high time you played up the best version of yourself and share it with the rest of the world! – Make A Good First Impression With Men – Eye Contact, Smile and More.
The sad part is I have absolutely no idea what yours are.
You have to do this for yourself BUT…
You DO have the power to change your life without relying on luck or chance.
You Do have the power to put yourself in better positions everyday to meet all sorts of men.
Ask yourself some amazingly simple questions…
- “What am I doing right?”
- “What talents am I wasting?”
- “How can use the things I do best to meet more men?”
- “Where will they come out in the most naturally settings or where can I put myself where they can be allowed to happen… naturally?”
From there, the path you take will depend on your own personal goals and there’s no need to predict them… let hem happen all by themselves. In other words, do NOT start thinking too far ahead. Please stay in the here and now.
Sure, sooner or later you’re going to find your weaker parts. You’re going to have to work on them.
My point is NEVER look at any problem from a negative view first.
So why wouldn’t this include meeting or approaching or dating guys.
Your positive view will always show you the way and help you remove the blind spots which might be hiding thus showing you where your new focus must go.
Back to the beginning…
Not just the ordinary type you might everyday anyways.
The ones you want to approach you or the guys who have something real to give.
No matter what your personal goal is with men, casual, dating, long-term relationship, marriage, family, the strategy laid out for you above DOES work.
It’s not the ultimate answer BUT it can help you because it’s puts you in a positive mindset, and because it can help you gain a better perspective on where or what you need the most help in.
Too many people keep going down the same road, doing the same thing over and over again HOPING they’ll get lucky one day.
I think you’re better than just waiting around for some uncontrollable thing to magically solve it or whisk you away to relationship bliss.
You want to meet more men?
Start looking at it from a positive perspective as soon as you possibly can.
Consider the quote below.
“She took acting lessons, joined a book club, and became devoted to yoga. The result: She met tons of smart, funny and fascinating… WOMEN.” – 10 Great Places to Meet a Man (from Divine Caroline)
Seems negative to me although it makes a great point so let’s think about the questions I wrote above and apply a positive spin to it.
If you can “act” you can definitely flirt.
If reading is your thing, okay read a few books on conversation starters or how attraction works for men, BUT reading usually means you can retain information and you are practicing using your imagination.
This means you can create some interesting conversation starters with guy. I’m not saying to bore the shit out of him, just to bring some of your reading to life, find an angle on it which makes it interested and SHARE.
Isn’t that what communication is anyways, at least in part…
Sharing your beliefs to inspire others to want to share too hopefully in an interesting passionate way.
What about Yoga?
You’re learning how to relax, stay in the moment, invigorate your body and mind… and must I go on. 🙂
All things to help you get through those nervous moments before the approach to after and beyond. It even helps you maintain open body language and appear more sexy to any guy.
The point is, everything you do well and everything you’re learning to do better CAN be used to meet the kind of men you want to.
Don’t overlook them.
Find out what they are, how they pertain to your life, how they’re related to guys, and reinforce with your new positive spin.