Written by Brad Browning, creator of The Ex Factor Guide.
Are you “friends” with your ex boyfriend?
Maybe your ex suggested it would be a good idea to be friends.
Or maybe you think it’s “better than nothing” if the alternative is losing him forever.
Being friends with your ex is actually almost always a bad idea and a recipe for additional (and unnecessary) heartache.
And although the “friend zone” is a terrible place to be with your ex, so many people fall for this trap because it’s such a tempting idea.
I mean, your ex is giving you an option that allows you to maintain contact with the person you’ve loved for some time and, in theory, this will allow you to move on gently and slowly without the intense feelings of loneliness that often accompany a breakup.
After all, if you can slowly wean yourself off those romantic feelings rather than going “cold turkey” and shutting down all contact with him, isn’t that a better option?
But the problem is that even though it often seems like a perfect compromise, being friends usually provides very little comfort and actually makes the process of moving on longer and more difficult than it needs to be.
AND… even more importantly… it will ruin your chances of winning your ex back!
There are a few other huge problems with agreeing to be friends with your ex if you want to win him back:
#1: It won’t give him a chance to develop feelings of nostalgia and he won’t miss you as much.
One of the key ingredients to repairing a relationship is that your ex needs to miss you like crazy.
How do you make someone miss you?
Simple: disappear from their life suddenly and completely, shutting down all lines of communication.
By maintaining a friendship with your ex, it’s impossible to really effectively disappear from his radar and make him miss you.
#2: It gives complete control of the situation to your ex.
Another key to winning back your ex is to make it clear that you are still equal with him even though he’s decided to break up with you.
You need to make it known that you’re not a pushover and that if your ex isn’t interested in a romantic relationship, then he’s cut from your life altogether.
#3: You serve as a “safety net” for your ex while they look for someone new.
Do you want to be your ex’s confidante while he tells you about his new lovers?
Do you want to be his “backup plan” in case things don’t work out with the new romance he’s pursuing?
Of course not.
You have to make it absolutely clear to your ex that if he chooses to break up with you, he’s on his own and he can’t come running back to you if he finds the single life a bit less fun than he imagined it would be.
In reality, there really isn’t any scenario where being friends (at least for the first few months) after a breakup is possible.
If you’ve already agreed to be “friends” with your ex and got yourself stuck in the “friend zone,” calm down…. you can still undo this mistake and win him back but only if you take action.
The first step is to watch this complimentary video by world-renowned breakup guru Brad Browning:
In fact, even if you haven’t yet agreed to be friends with your ex, you should still take 5 minutes to watch that video…. it will teach you a few little-known techniques to re-wire your ex’s feelings and make him want you back.
Articles Written by Brad Browning.
“Maybe you lost your boyfriend because you committed one of the six deadly relationship sins. If you don’t know what they are, it’s best to find out as quickly as possible if you want to get him back. This is what he lost for you and how to change things around. Getting dumped sucks but it doesn’t have to be the end.”
“Sending your ex a few text message is a great helpful beginning if you want to get him back. This is a simple easy method which works amazingly well. Just because you broke up doesn’t mean you are not allowed to contact him anymore and by using your phone in this way, he’ll accept it much easier.”
Image by Helena Lopes.