Written by David Wygant Trusted Dating and Relationship Expert
Do you ever feel like it’s a lot of “work” to meet men?
And you wonder why it has to be so hard?
(Here’s a hint – it DOESN’T HAVE TO BE!)
Most of the women I’ve coached over the last 11 years are women who are sincere and really try to learn the best way to meet men, but still struggle…
…and I hate seeing how frustrated they are.
They tell me how they’ve read every book out there on how to meet men.
They tell me they’ve tried every “trick” and method that are in those books —
yet it still isn’t working and they’re not meeting (and more importantly not ATTRACTING) men.
Do you ever feel like these women do? Do you just want to know it’s not working for you?
I HAVE GOOD NEWS – and I’m here to tell you that your frustration can come to an end … PERMANENTLY!
What I see so many women missing in their approach to learning how to meet and attract men is that they don’t ENJOY THEMSELVES and their life…
…and, YES, this does impact your dating life!
Meeting men is not about memorizing rules, or learning “do’s and don’ts” – there are some great “tips” I can give you about how to but that is only a small part of the equation.
Being “attractive” starts with you understanding that YOU have the power to be attractive RIGHT NOW!
By creating an amazing lifestyle and being passionate about the things you do, you will start attracting men instead of spending your life chasing them and hoping you’ll connect with them.
Men (and everyone in fact) are attracted to positive, fun, interesting and well-rounded individuals.
If you’re miserable or doing things that you don’t enjoy, you are not going to meet men no matter what system or methodology you use to do it. The reason is that no one wants to meet someone who is miserable or spending their life doing things they don’t like.
So before you go out and try to meet men, you need to first figure out how to create a passionate lifestyle for yourself.
Think for a second about the kind of men to whom you are attracted. Most people are attracted to people who are positive, energetic and interesting. Now think about what type of person you are right now.
Are you that positive, energetic and interesting person I just described, or are you someone who is miserable and angry because you FEEL like you can’t meet someone?
It all starts with creating an amazing lifestyle for yourself, so that you feel great and will attract amazing men into your life.
And YOU DESERVE AMAZING MEN IN YOUR LIFE!
I want to get you started right now on creating your amazing lifestyle, so to give you a little incentive to get started – here are 5 ways that doing so will make you instantly more attractive to men:
TIP #1: REEVALUATE YOUR WORK ENVIRONMENT
One of the first (and most important) things you need to do to create an amazing lifestyle is to take a very critical eye to your current work environment. Because work is something most of us HAVE to do, we sometimes don’t expect that it is also something we can want to do (or at least not hate doing).
Think about your current work environment.
Do you have a boss who is consistently demeaning? Do you dislike most of your co-workers? Do you dread going into work every day?
If your work environment is toxic and causing you to be miserable, then it’s time to reevaluate whether it’s time for a change. If you are working in a toxic environment, consider whether you are staying there because you are comfortable and don’t want to have to push your own boundaries.
If you stay in a work environment that makes you miserable and angry, then understand that miserable and angry is what you are going to project to everyone around you (whether you intend to or not), including to the people you have been trying to attract.
TIP #2: DO THE THINGS YOU LOVE
So many women go to places they believe they “should” go or “have to” go in order to meet men, but which are places they don’t enjoy being at all.
Is it really any wonder they have trouble meeting men in these places?
Instead of going to places where you’re not happy to try and meet men, pick five things YOU really love to do. Think about what your five favorite things are to do.
Then ask yourself whether there are men present at each of those five things. If not, then go deeper and find five things you’re either already interested in or about which you would like to learn.
Then go to any of these places to meet men. When you go to places that interest you, you’ll already have things to talk about and will naturally bond with people.
The reason you have trouble making conversation with men in a bar (or other places you may not enjoy being), is because when you’re someplace you really don’t like you have to manufacture conversations instead of just talking about what’s already interesting to you.
TIP #3: BE OPEN
Positive people are open to new experiences. So instead of expecting to meet men when you go out and getting totally disappointed if you don’t, be open to what the day or night might present to you.
Being open means talking to everyone with which you come into contact, and not only being friendly to men you find attractive. Just because you are not attracted to the person you’re talking to doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be open and friendly.
You never know, for instance, if that person may have a friend they’re meeting later with whom you might end up totally connecting.
So be open to anything and everything, because people who are open to whatever presents itself to them always meet people. Remember that every connection you make with someone leads to another, and you never know what (or who) that next connection might bring into your life.
TIP #4: FIND YOUR INNER CHILD
Here is a concept that so many women do not understand and which keeps them from meeting men…
One of the biggest parts of being attractive to men is being approachable. That means when you go anywhere, don’t just “show up.”
You need to embrace the moment and approach everything with a child-like enthusiasm. Smile, talk to people, ask questions and ENJOY YOURSELF.
During a recent coaching weekend with several male clients, instead of just “taking them out to meet women” I took them to the beach and had them build sand castles. The reason I did this was to teach them how to have fun again and not to be so serious.
This concept is true for women too – If you’re serious when you try to meet men, then you’re not having fun and that is not attractive.
Life is about having fun just like you did when you were a kid. You are attractive when you’re enjoying yourself and your life.
TIP #5: USE “THE LAW OF ATTRACTION”
If you’ve been wondering how all these “public perception” type of tips relate to how attractive you will be to men – here’s where I will show you how the way you behave in public will affect how successful you will be at attracting men.
It’s called attraction for a reason…
When you walk into a place and you start talking to a bunch of different people, other people will line up and want to talk to you (including those men you’ve been
trying so hard to meet).
If you’re angry, you are going to attract angry people and you will spend your day in constant confrontations.
If you walk around in life having fun, having casual conversations and enjoying every step of the journey – even if you’re just running an errand to the market – you are going to attract great people into your life.
People are attracted to people having a good time and who are enjoying their life. No one wants to hang out with a person who is pouting, folding their arms and looking miserable.
That’s why it’s so important if you want to attract men that you create a lifestyle.
Creating a lifestyle is all about learning to genuinely enjoy your life every day. Do things that you love and enjoy them.
Embrace every single moment.
By doing these things, you will NATURALLY START ATTRACTING MEN!
By being more open, not only will you start talking to more people but more people will notice your openness and start talking to you.
Being more open also makes you more memorable.
So why continue to chase after men you want to meet when you can start attracting them? YOU have the power within you right now to attract the men you want to meet RIGHT NOW and every day!
Create an amazing lifestyle and be passionate about the things you do, and you WILL start attracting men.
Start taking responsibility for your own dating life, and you’ll start improving it immediately!
If you want to learn more about how men REALLY think, and how to create a fun and amazing dating life where you will never again be confused by men, then let me show you how to easily Connect With Men. Two other powerful programs from David are here… How To Connect With Men and The Commitment Switch – getting any man to commit to you.
You can find more great advice from David here at the Approach by going here: David Wygant – Nine Steps to Attracting Men – Your Amazing Dating Life.