Written by David Wygant Trusted Dating and Relationship Expert
Do you ever feel like men speak a totally different language sometimes?
I mean, they’re technically speaking the same language…
…but somehow what you hear them say, and what they mean seem to inevitably be two completely different things.
So is this just one of those “Mars / Venus” things that we have to just accept and hope that we can find some way to live with it?
In fact, men aren’t nearly as hard to figure out once you learn how they’re wired…
…and men ARE WIRED DIFFERENTLY.
Think about this for a second…
When you first look at a man and a woman, you are able to notice subtle differences between the sexes.
It is when the two sexes communicate with each other, however, that the differences become truly glaring.
This is because one is speaking “he talk” while the other is speaking “she talk.”
Where this difference really becomes a problem is when you are in a relationship, and you need to know how to combine “he talk” and “she talk” into “we talk.”
So I feel like it’s my job – as a man and as a dating coach who has seen this issue cause frustration for women for over 11 years – to help all you women learn how to understand “he talk” (or “man talk” as I like to call it)…
…cause I don’t want you to need to hire a translator to understand what men are saying!
Women always want men to express their feelings.
One of the biggest complaints I hear from my women clients is:
“Why can’t he just say he loves me?” or “I wish he would just compliment me more.”
What you need to pay attention to and realize, though, is that men do tell you they love you and compliment you … they just do it USING THEIR OWN LANGUAGE.
Actually, here’s something most experts never tell you about men: MEN SOMETIMES DON’T USE WORDS AT ALL WHEN THEY ARE COMMUNICATING WITH YOU.
Accepting this truism about men will help you to better understand men’s verbal and non-verbal language.
Sometimes it’s not what men say, but it’s their actions that are significant. It is necessary for women to learn to interpret men’s very roundabout way of communicating with them.
So GET READY … AND LET’S GET STARTED …
Here are KEY INSIGHTS INTO “MAN TALK” that you’ll hear from a guy you’re newly dating.
Now let’s tackle some of these new guy words and actions and reveal what they REALLY mean:
NEW RELATIONSHIP MAN CODE!
If you pay attention to these four things at the beginning of a relationship, you will have a much better idea both of how well your relationship is going and, more importantly…
…how THE MAN in this new relationship BELIEVES IT’S GOING.
“MAN CODE” #1: A Man Tells You He Needs His Space.
So what does this mean to you?
It means that you need to ignore him and not call him. Men love the chase. By not calling him, he’ll start calling you and wondering what happened.
Also, by not making yourself too available, it keeps a man on his toes. This is important early in the dating process.
“MAN CODE” #2: A Man Calls You Every Night Just To Say Goodnight.
When a man does this, it actually has several meanings (beyond that which may seem to be the obvious one) especially when a relationship is new.
This is one thing men will do early in a relationship as a way of seeing if we still like you.
You see, men are always looking at relationships with a “grass is always greener” eye, and calling you like this early in a relationship is a way to confirm that we are still interested in you.
Thus, if a man continues to do this as the days pass, as the women you should read this as a good sign of early interest in a relationship.
“MAN CODE” #3: Flowers On the Dinner Table.
A man offers to make you dinner at his house. When you arrive you notice that in the middle of the table sits a vase with your favorite flowers in it (which he only heard you mention once in passing on your first date).
In man talk, what does this mean? By doing this, he’s telling you that he pays attention to you, and he is interested in learning more about you and sharing more things with you.
Men generally do not pay particular attention to the different varieties of flowers.
If he not only payed attention to the name of a particular flower you like, but remembered it days later so that he could have them in his home for you to see, this is a very good sign of early interest.
Most men couldn’t tell you the difference between a rose and a rhododendron …
Take this as a sign of definite interest in wanting to escalate a new relationship to a higher level.
“MAN CODE” #4: The Car Rescue.
You have plans to meet him at a place that was close to his house, and at the very last minute you were having car problems.
So you call him and tell him that you are having car issues and can’t make it.
Not only does he offer to pick you up, but he insists on picking you up. This in man talk will tell you that he is interested in you as more than friends…
…because we don’t go out of our way for just any woman.
We only go out of our way for women in whom we are really interested.
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You can find more great advice from David here at the Approach by going here: David Wygant – Nine Steps to Attracting Men – Your Amazing Dating Life.