Who Calls First Online – Stress Free Dating

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Written by David Wygant, the most successful and charismatic relationship expert in the business.

Recently I was asked this question from a female reader:

“I’ve been flirting with this one guy on match.com and another guy on Yahoo! Personals. We’ve had some fun email exchanges. One of the men said ‘This is fun … Call me sometime. I’d love to hear your voice.’ Then he gave me his number. What’s the proper etiquette?”

Do you ever wonder what the dating etiquette is Online?

If you’ve struck up a “conversation” with a guy online and he gives you his number, should you ever be the first one to call?

Or … do you reciprocate, give him your number and tell him to call you?

Are dating rules different when you’re online dating?


If you’re a woman, how do you navigate the Online communication waters?



Allow me to give you some helpful advice about how to deal with these issues …

While there are no hard and fast “rules,” these guidelines will help make your online dating experiences a lot less stressful…

…and will allow you to have a lot more FUN!

So here is the proper etiquette.

Forget about what your mother said that you’re not a lady if you call first.

Things are different now.

One of my favorite emails I told a woman client of mine to write to a man who had given her his number online was this:

“Sure. I’ll give you a call. I like having all the power. 🙂 Actually, I was kind of tired of having men call me first, ’cause then you just have to wait. Now it’s more fun … I can make you wait 🙂 Talk to you real soon.”

This email will make a guy think … and laugh. He’ll also realize that giving up all that power and waiting for that phone to ring is really not a lot of fun.

Not only that, but the next time he gets a phone number from a woman and considers making her wait three or four days for him to call, he’ll remember what it’s like sitting by the phone and waiting for that phone call.

So while I believe there are no “hard and fast” rules, I do have a rule of thumb about what to do about calling when you meet someone online.

My rule for this is that if you’re a woman and you give your number to a man, put an expiration date on it like a carton of milk.

If you give your number to a man on a Friday, put an expiration date on it of Sunday night. Making someone wait for that first phone call is a momentum killer!

Plus, what really does happen to the milk at midnight on the date it expires? How do they know it’s no longer going to taste good at one minute after midnight?

Should you drink the entire carton at 11:59 p.m. on Saturday night . . . or if you drink the carton after midnight are you going to get sick?

Don’t take your chances with this…

I always tell the men I coach to make sure and call someone well before the expiration date … cause I am telling women to treat men’s numbers have “expired” just like they were bad milk.

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