Some say men are simple. We’re easy to figure out. How we’re only interested in two things – how a woman looks and sex.
If that were the case you could easily approach any man with a simplistic attitude. Give him exactly what you know he wants and you’ll never have to worry about what he’s thinking.
And you’ll never have to worry about interpreting his signals.
But let’s face it.
You have a hard time “reading” a man’s signals. You have a hard time understanding what he means.
And you find it even more difficult to imagine if he does in fact only like you for your looks or whether there’s something deeper going on.
And what about love??!!!
When you mention love or if he brings it up it must feel like he’s trying to throw you off the trail on purpose. Like his whole goal is to keep you guessing. Almost as if his only predictable response is to confuse you – just enough – to piss you off!!!
I’m going to give you something. A little insight into the male mind I want you to never forget. Because it’s going to change how you interpret his signals.
No more guessing.
No more games.
You’ll find be able to look at your man (or your future boyfriend) and know exactly what he means. With regards to this whole “love-like” problem lots of women just like you have.
Let’s cover the basics first. I’m also assuming you have some sort of relationship with him whether it’s casually dating or you’re both committed.
- “I like you.” – I’m not sure if you like me and I want to know.
- “I love you.”– I care about you.
- “I’m in love with you.” – I want a relationship.
- “I love you but I’m not in love with you .” – I care about you but I’m not interested in a relationship with you.
- “I love you. I’m just not in love with you but I still want sex.” – I don’t think you’re relationship material but I would love to have sex with you. And I do care about you.
Let’s get a little deeper because I feel to understand better men you’re going to need to know a little more.
Men use the word like when they’re unsure if you like them back.
They also have been known to use it when they’re not feeling a deep attraction. They’re unsure either of the direction they want to go or they’re just not ready to commit.
“I really do like you .” – Means I’m not sure if I’m ready. Or I’m not sure because I want to leave my dating options open.
Men use the word love very, very sparingly so don’t take it lightly.
In fact I would be concerned if you meet any man who overuses this word. You see men assume when they say it to a woman he’s dating she’ll misinterpret it for him asking for a “commitment.”
- “I do love you…” – This is what a man says when he would not wish anything bad on you. It could only be a friendly gesture or general concern over your well-being.
- “I’m in love with… but…” – This is what a man say’s to avoid a difficult moment. Remember most men are not taught how to step through a relationship. They “wing it.” They try to “save their face” if they’re rejected.
I told you above men take the word love very seriously. We use it sparingly. We use it as if just uttering the words has a huge impact on the woman we’re saying it too.
This is where I believe you’ll notice a huge communication break down between men and women. Men have a terrible habit of assuming every woman who admits she has feelings for him can be quite hurt easily.
He may choose NOT to mention love to spare her feelings…in case things don’t work out or he’s not ready to date you exclusively.
Women DO NOT take the word love so seriously for themselves at least. They use it more often and some even use it flagrantly with little regard to its impact.
At least that’s what guys think so it’s important to know how guys interpret women.
This lack of communication between men and women is where problems arise from on this whole “love-like” thing.
Now if you don’t want to just take my word for it, I understand and it’s okay.
I’ll pass on my favorite because this guy had a massive list of male subscribers and he had a brain storm one day… he decided to start asking them questions on things guys would NEVER dare say to a woman.
And you can get your hands on the results of all the surveys he did. Yeah I guess it’s like have a secret dirty book on men… remember they didn’t know women would see their answers. Sure it was a little creep on his part but who cares… right?
I may have mentioned it before but here it is again:
As far as this whole love and like thing when it comes to guys…
Guys use the word LOVE sparingly for lots of reasons but one of the big ones is because they’re worried on how YOU will interpret it. They believe you’ll assume it means an automatic relationship.
They also assume when you say it, you’re now waiting for him to commit to you. AND that you’re expecting him to say it back – which if the guy isn’t feeling it makes him feel very uncomfortable.
Which leads to his “what ifs” also stopping lots of guys from saying it.
Just like you, they’re actually scared of saying it because WHAT IF you don’t say it back… can I say “awkward”.
Since this isn’t an article of why guys are scared of telling a woman early on how much they love her I’ll skip it for now.
Let’s stick to the topic.
Like and love to a guy are very different and I think you already knew that… however… in a very strange twist of fate they are not linked.
A guy can love a woman and not even like her. Sure it’s a “bratty little sister” thing but he can easily feel it with a woman he’s sexually attracted towards also.
A guy can like a woman and not ever love her. Maybe he just likes the sex, maybe he isn’t entirely sure if he’s ready for anything more.
When a guy feels both then you have something special so I’d make sure you don’t let him go all too easily because…
And this is a big secret too any women don’t know about men… this is the absolute truth … something you’ll never want to forget…
Yes, it’s true.
Men DO fall in love with a woman faster, harder, and easier… than a woman falls in love with a man.
For some, it only takes a few interactions before they’re feeling it for you. Doesn’t mean they will honestly admit it to you or to themselves… but it happens.
Thought I’d leave you with that little nugget on guys. Hope it doesn’t confuse you too much. 😀
P.s. Don’t forget about Secret Surveys – Thousands of men reveal ALL their secrets. Don’t just get them from me…
Creator: Michael Fiore
Michael Fiore is an internationally-known “relationship advice guy” based in Seattle.
Michael has been featured on “The Rachael Ray Show”, has been interviewed by Time Magazine, and has helped tens of thousands of men and women get the love of their life back one text at a time.
- Training Video: Men are like dogs (and you’re a bad owner)
- What Men Desperately Want You to Know but Could Never Tell You
- The Human Lie Detector
- Unstoppable Confidence
- Interview With A Cheater
- Magnetic Attraction
- The Insecurity Cure
Michael Fiore recently sent a very simple, very powerful survey to a list of over 20,000 men asking one amazing question…
“What’s the one thing you wish the woman in your life understood about men, but could NEVER tell her?”
If you’d like to learn the answer to that question (what men want sexually, emotionally and intellectually… why men lie to women, why men cheat on women and so much more) you need to stop what you’re doing and go watch this video right now…