There are no “hard” rules in texting back and forth when it relates to men and woman who are either dating or “liking” each other.
If you want a guy to like you (more), a constant stream of texting won’t help at all.
There are too many instances when we get a message and we can’t or won’t respond and sending another message will not change that fact.
Sometimes it’s because we just don’t want to.
Sometimes it’s because we know you all too well – replying to a text message means ten more are coming OR we’re bound to discuss the same old issues.
Sometimes it’s impossible to get back to you because our focus is somewhere else. We’re NOT good at switching focus on a whim and practicing that “art” is not high on our list. We like the way we are. 😀
I will say this:
9 times out of 10 a guy will NOT ignore a woman he is into UNLESS you give him every reason to start ignoring you.
“If after going out on a date with a guy you have texted him twice without a return text, DELETE THAT NUMBER!” He Is Not Texting or Calling – When Is It Time To Delete His Number?
Think of a guy who is always up your ass and you want nothing to do with him. Sooner or later your apathy towards him changes to frustration and then sudden outbursts of anger when he just won’t get the point.
The last thing you want to do to an apathetic man is to frustrate and then anger him because he will then begin to predict it will happen again.
This means he’s NOT ignoring you IF the circumstances are normal and mind you, most of VERY normal with very few exceptions. I understand how so many people think, “but my situation is different” I assure you it’s not.
Again, think of all the men who try to “be different” with a woman (or you) and he just doesn’t see how his “trying to be different” is actually him just being like every other guy who is trying.
Okay, now we have the most obvious answer to a guy who is supposedly ignoring your ONE text – Do NOT text him again twice the normal length of your average silence.
Yes. I made a hard rule of texting. Follow it if you dare. :p
Twice the normal length of your average silence.
If you text back and forth and don’t again for a few days, wait twice that time before you send a second text AND the second text should have little to do with your first.
This tells the guy you’re not a stalker. How you’re not going to get all bent out of shape when he won’t get back at a moments notice. It will also suggest a better pattern for the next time.
It gets the guy thinking, “I am free to text back without fear of having to answer forty more texts.” which will make him more likely to get back to you sooner.
Now I understand this problem of “ignoring” a woman goes much deeper. There are way too many areas to discover or discuss.
BUT I will say this again,
A guy will not ignore a woman’s text (if he’s into her) unless she gives him every reason to start ignoring her.
Special circumstances? Perhaps… here is where I tell you… 13 Real Reasons Why A Guy Will Not, Can Not, or Does Not Text You Back.
Most of the time it’s not possible to respond or we like to wait until we’re comfortable and less distracted.
Remember the focus thing about guys. It’s narrow. We are not good or don’t like to bounce back and forth.
If I’m focused on my job it is mentally exhausting, and perhaps tougher for us guys, to switch our focus to anything else especially if that new focus is someone we’re emotionally connected with, like a woman we like.
My best advice is to AVOID sending several texts and be patient and real about the situation.
Your guy friend,
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