Don’t you hate it when the passive aggressive man gets under your skin?
How about when you really do like him but for some reason his silence drives you crazy?
It may be even be the one thing you don’t like about him.
Whether his mysterious silence tugs on your natural curiosity or pisses you off because it all seems so pointless, you can not help to wonder…
WHY – Why would a guy ignore you?
We all can agree male – female interaction is almost always often situation based.
Meaning your husband ignoring or withdrawing, you might be different than some guy at work you’re friends with. Or your new boyfriend goes silent at certain times and other times he talks your ear off.
Or when you’re out trying your best to meet a single guy – the ones who catch your eye seem to ignore you.
And let’s not forget about the guy who’s into you one minutes then ignores you completely to flirt with your friends or when he’s with his buddies it’s like you don’t even exist.
Men don’t go silent unless there’s a reason. But and this is a big but – never forget some men go silent or only appear to ignore because they literally have nothing to say AND they’re comfortable in the silence.
If you’re in a troubled relationship he might ignore you because he knows it pisses you off. Or he’s had a bad day and doesn’t want to talk about it.
Either way the wrong kind of pressure or the wrong type of communication in this circumstance will only make the problem worse.
Sometime guys get bad advice.
They believe you rope a woman in, ignore her, and she’ll want you more. So in this case it means he likes you but really doesn’t understand how things are supposed to work.
But keep in mind that does work for lots of men – at least in getting your attention or curiosity. So to some guys if it’s worked before they’ll continue the same tactics on every woman until they find one it works on.
It could be he’s not interested and believes the best way to make you go away is to ignore you. He doesn’t want to hurt your feelings or he’s not good with confrontation.
This usually happens when a woman gets too aggressive, needy, or pushes a guy into a corner. He’ll avoid that corner to avoid having to “small talk” his way out of the situation. He’ll be pleasant and nice but you’ll find he’ll ignore you every chance he gets.
To him it’s just easier that way.
Now some of you will NOT like a guy but he’ll get the wrong picture. He may not understand that’s who you are. You talk to everybody and in your mind it means nothing more than a conversation.
Another reason a particular man may ignore you is because he’s not very good with women.
I know – not good with women???!! It’s true and unfortunately it happens all too often.
You see he gets nervous around you. He’s very shy and perhaps even borderline introverted. He could be so insecure just the thought of talking to you causes a severe case of lock-jaw.
He might even fear that if he opens his mouth he could literally scare you away.
One more reason comes to mind and this is where your friend, boyfriend, or some guy you’re dating always seems to ignore you ONLY when he’s with other people.
They could be his family – “He’s probably worried you won’t approve of them.” And in some rare cases he’s worried they won’t approve of you.
They could be his friends – “He hates acting like a boyfriend in front of them. It makes him feel less manly.” We can call him Mister DPD – or Mister Dual Personality Dude. 🙂
One last case is he’s a really nice guy and feels sort of embarrassed or refuses to chase, hit on, or flirt with a woman. We can call him “Mister NDD or – Nice and Differently Disabled.
Shhh…that was me and I’ll explain next.
Now some of you might be asking why a guy like me would ignore you?
(Assuming you DO know I teach guys how to attract women…and not how to ignore you to play hard to get.)
First I must explain it was mostly because I saw how many “other” guys were up your ass all the time trying to “get in your pants” and the I refused to be anything like them.
So why they are “playing tag” with you I was dreaming you would eventually come to me.
You got to love the past. Actually I will still do that but my reasons are completely different. Ask below and I’ll try to explain
Unfortunately this dreaming only left me, or stuck me with having a friendly conversation when no one was around. This is a typical nice guy way of dealing with the “I don’t want to be like those jerks” dilemma. Mister NDD.
Me now – if I ignore you it’s because:
- I don’t enjoy talking to you – friendly or not. (Very rare.)
- You’re all over me and I’m not interested. (Very common.)
The number one reason, believe it or not – It’s all in your head.
I’m not ignoring you. I’m just living my life. Sometimes our paths will cross. Sometimes they won’t.
Unless you really catch my eye or you’re a blast to be around I won’t make of an effort to spark up a conversation.
Of course that does not include waitresses, cashiers, or any friendly public “service” worker who does her job quite well. If I ignore you then it’s probably because I’m “out of it” totally, engrossed in a conversation with someone else, or you’re doing a terrible job.
You have to understand men who are or appear to be naturally successful attracting women usually don’t make women a priority.
It may appear you’re being ignored when in reality you’re over-thinking the situation.
I see it happen to lots of guys and with women it’s no different. They somehow believe she is doing something, anything, pondering or even fantasizing about him because they either caught each other’s eyes or talked once. (I promise to talk more about that later because it really is a huge deal.)
For this post never assume he is doing something to you and you’ll increase your chance at meeting some incredible guys.
Because now you know – if he’s ignoring for his benefit or yours…
Then in a small but effective way to him – his life revolves around the female form, shape or existence and sometimes that’s going to be you.
Take a quick second the next time a guy ignores you and consider what I’ve told you. I believe you’ll be pleasantly surprised and depending on the situation you’ll know the real reason why a guy ignores you.
But hey – Don’t forget to tell me about it. I’d enjoy that. So no ignoring me on this post or I’ll be really upset. Grrrr!! 😀
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