His Silence Is Driving You Crazy…So Why Would A Guy Ignore You?

Man Alone Quite Silent Ignoring You

Don’t you hate it when the passive aggressive man gets under your skin?

How about when you really do like him but for some reason his silence drives you crazy?

It could be the one thing you don’t like about him.

Whether his mysterious silence tugs on your natural curiosity or pisses you off because it all seems so pointless, you can not help to wonder…

WHY – Why would a guy ignore you?

You’ve found the right place because you’ll find every reason why it’s listed below so you’ll never have to ask this question again.

Let’s get started.

We all can agree male – female interaction is almost always often situation based.

Meaning when your husband is ignoring you or withdrawing is very different than some now not-so-friendly guy at work who one day just stops talking to you. Both are as equally different than your new boyfriend going silent at certain times and other times talking your ear off.

How about when you’re out trying your best to meet a single guy but the ones you really want don’t even notice you. Almost like they are “ignoring” you too.

Of course let’s not forget about the guy who’s into you one minute then ignores you completely to flirt with your friends or when he’s with his buddies it’s like you DON’T EVEN EXIST!

Be it a now known fact:

Men don’t go silent unless there’s a real reason to do so.

But… and this is a big but – never forget some men go silent or only appear to ignore you because they literally have nothing to say AND they’re comfortable in the silence.

If you’re in a troubled relationship he might ignore you because he knows it pisses you off. Or he’s had a bad day and doesn’t want to talk about it.The wrong kind of pressure or the wrong type of communication in this circumstance will only make the problem worse.

This usually happens because of a breakdown in communication and unfortunately means your current relationship may be in trouble. There’s a huge section explaining it all in the free version of my ebook you can pick up below.

You could also watch this “promotional” video if you’re looking for very experienced help in bringing back your husband or boyfriend before it’s too late:

Why Men Pull Away.

Next reason…

Some guys just get bad advice and use it on you.

They believe you rope a woman in, ignore her, and she’ll want you more. So in this case it means he likes you but really doesn’t understand how things are “supposed” to work with women.

Keeping in mind that tactic actually does work for lots of men – at least in getting your attention or curiosity. So to some guys if it’s worked before, they’ll continue the same tactics on every woman until they find one it works on.

Here’s a reason NO woman ever wants to hear but it must be said:

He’s not interested in you at all.

He believes the best way to make you go away is to ignore you. He doesn’t want to hurt your feelings and/or he’s not at all good with confrontation. Probably both.

This usually happens when a woman gets too aggressive, needy, or pushes a guy into a corner. He’ll avoid that corner and the thought of having to “small talk” his way out of the situation. He’ll be pleasant and nice but you’ll find he’ll ignore you every chance he gets.

To him it’s just easier that way.

Another very valid reason you could be ignored…

Because he’s not very good with women.

I know – not good with women???!! I dare say it but It’s absolutely true and unfortunately it’s very common among men.

Some say the percentage of men who are not good with women runs about 90 to 95%. That’s a pretty high number making the next part something all too likely to happen to you.

You see “this” guy gets nervous around you. He’s very shy and perhaps even borderline introverted. He could be so insecure just the thought of talking to you causes a severe case of lock-jaw.

He might even fear that if he opens his mouth he could literally scare you away. His silence has little to do with you and originates from the fact he’s shy and doesn’t believe he knows how to talk to a woman he likes – therefore being silent just kind of happens.

Next up… hard to believe there are this many  reasons:

Your friend, boyfriend, or some guy you’re dating always seems to ignore you ONLY when he’s with other people.

Guys Hanging Out Being Silent You

They could be his family and he’s worried you won’t approve of them and in some rare cases he’s worried that they won’t approve of you.

They could be his friends and he hates acting like a boyfriend in front of them because it makes him feel less manly.

We will call him Mister DPD – or Mister Dual Personality Dude.

He’s the guy who only ignores you when you’re with other people and although it’s not the worst thing in the world – mind you it does suck when it’s happening to you, but the reasons are not always severe and can be overcome with a little communication.

However be warned, men who fall under the DPD category tend to be that way in many other areas so keep your eyes out for him.

Try to understand that sometimes he means the best and it’s not a big deal but other times, as in acting different around his friends, or treating your differently when he’s with other people is typically a bad sign. Consider your relationship with the second guy very carefully.

Okay, onto the next reason you might be ignored… this next one has another acronym: NDD. he also falls under the “not good with women” category.

He’s too much of a nice guy and becomes easily embarrassed. He refuses to chase, hit on, or flirt with a woman.

We can call him “Mister NDD or  – Nice and Differently Disabled. That was me so I know a lot about him but I’ll try to quickly explain.

This guy is all too aware of what is happening between men and women. He sees other guys constantly hitting on you and flirting with you. He assumes those guys are only out to get in your pants and some of they actually are and I’m sure you already knew that… be he doesn’t know that you know.

The last thing Mister NDD wants is for you to see him as one of those guys. He wants you to see him as being different. He wants you to see him as liking you for you and not just another dude trying to get in your pants.

This is his weird little way of showing you he actually LIKES YOU.

Yes, I know, by ignoring you? How? What? Why?

While those guys are all up in your butt trying and trying, he’s dreaming of being with you and doesn’t have a clue on how to make it happen.

You will notice that he only talks to you when no one else is around. He waits for you to be alone. He plans his days or times around making sure he gets your full attention. He will also leave quickly if someone else comes around.

Sound familiar now? Hope so because believe it or not, especially among a younger school or college crowd or a guy from work, he’s very common.

There are Mister NDD’s everywhere if you know where to look and now that you know the signs to look for.

We’ve covered a lot so far but yes, hope you’re enjoying this secret information about men, because we’re not done yet.

Next… what if the guy IS good with women. He’s actually quite easy to figure out IF you’re not dating him and only come in contact with him occasionally.

IF this guy (the 5 to 10% of guys who are gifted with women and are not players, jerks, or the typical asses) ignores you it’s not all bad but it’s not all good either.

He doesn’t enjoy talking to you.

You’ll find a whole list of reason why some women push away guys and cause their silence once again – yes it’s all in my ebook – even the free version. It’s tough to take it all in but I did try to keep it beneficial and helpful and hopefully you understand that many of the items on the list are easily fixed so you never have to worry about it again.

Now to the sort-of good part.

Friendly or not. He doesn’t want to lead you on. He’s ignoring you because he’s just not interested. However you must understand, a guy who is that good with women and a decent man won’t just ignore you so it’s very rare.

Most of the time the better guy is not ignoring you. He’s just living his life. Sometimes your paths will cross. Sometimes they won’t. Unless you really catch his eye or you’re a blast to be around he won’t make of an effort to spark up a conversation.

Told you it’s good and bad.

Of course this does not include waitresses, cashiers, or any friendly public “service” worker who does her job quite well. If you’re ignored in that situation then it’s probably because he’s “out of it” totally, engrossed in a conversation with someone else, or you’re unfortunately doing a terrible job and he’s too nice to say anything about. But I’m positive you’re not here for that reason.

More good and this is the really cool part.

You have to understand men who are or who appear to be naturally successful attracting women usually don’t make women a priority. It may appear you’re being ignored when in reality you’re over-thinking the situation.

I see it happen to lots of guys and with women it’s no different. They somehow believe she(he) is doing something, anything, pondering or even fantasizing about him or her because they either caught each other’s eyes or talked once.

For this post, never assume he is doing something to you and you’ll increase your chance at meeting some incredible guys.

Because now you know this undeniable fact about men, dating, and attraction… pay attention because this will literally change it all for you when it comes to meeting and interacting with better guys:

If he’s ignoring you for his benefit or yours…

  • Playing hard to get or any ignore game to lead you on…
  • Being Mister DPD or treating you differently when you’re around others…
  • Refusing to talk things out or learning how to communicate with you better…
  • Trying to follow some outdated dating rules…
  • Unable to see that you’re smart enough to know when a guy is just trying to get in your pants…
  • Follows bad advice when it comes to women instead of leading like a real man should…
  • Ignores you because he’s not interested in you but is not strong enough to just tell you he’s not interested…

Assume his life revolves around the female form in a bad way. He’s just trying to beat the system or is failing to admit reality for what it is.

Now you must admit when a guy like THAT does IGNORE you, he’s actually doing you a real favor because now you know to stay far away from him, or get away from, and/or just to let him go and move on to better men who are less passive aggressive with you.

The rest of the guys, although their reasons may not be great, they’re certainly valid for them and are not doing it to cause you harm, hurt you, or play some weird twisted game…

Then consider once again… Why Men Pull Away. The tag line is, “If you’ve ever felt abandoned, rejected or confused by a man’s behavior, then you NEED to watch this video right now.”

Thanks for stopping by and I do hope you enjoyed this exciting and insightful episode of the Secret Dirty Truth About Men. Make sure you sign up below for more great secrets on men and so you don’t miss another one.

Your host and guy friend,
Pete (Peter White)

282 comments… add one
  • gerard

    i work in a bank doing cover for another work colleague . there is a really nice girl and I mean nice in the way she treats you . I was up the stairs one morning and they were having there usuall work meetings they do . workers and managers to. I was in the hall way to the kitchen when I was called out now coinsider there was 12 workers and 2 managers . one of the managers said to me Gerard aren’t you in love with me . I was really gobsmacked to say the least . but the truth be told I am in love with her . I replyed back theres no poinbt me telling you . you got it right . to my surprise now this was in front of 14 people her reply was I fing love you for that I love u we pet . by this stage id dissapeard back to were I was . I could hear the conversation her telling them all that she was in love with me to and that I am a really nice guy and make her feel good when we talk . I couldn’t wait to get out of there after that day .now it don’t end there how ironic it was me that was asked for to go do the cover all the time after that day . I’m still not to sure what to think as you said about silence . this girl has been silent on a few occasions from this . recently I was there and I went up the stairs and she was standing there talking to another girl she turned around an looked wen I was up . never said hi or how are you Gerard . an hour later I was oput getting some it to eat in a grociers near there and she was there to came past me at the door said hi gerard . so you see how strange this is in haven’t done any thing about it . but ive been told if it keeps going on it will evently end up kissing both of us haha I hope this is true tbh

  • Sophia

    Pete, I’m so confused and heartbroken over what men are doing… 2 months ago I met a guy working for the same company. We met outside of work, at a social event. I was not prepared, I was exhausted and had the worst looks ever. Yet, he ran at me and insisted soooo much that I stayed for the night. Like, I never saw a man insist so much! I had to leave eventually… He gave me a peck on my lips and later sent me a message about how I should really be there and that he’d come after me to the edge of the world. Of course I did not fall for such words – too much, too quick!! But I was polite and agreed to have a date the next day. He contacted me early in the morning but we had less than one hour together, due to work commitments. He made even bigger plans for us, gave me another peck on the lips, then… I heard NOTHING of him! I messaged to ask if the plan is still up but he said he had a car crash and spent many hours at the police. The way he explained it seemed genuine. However, the next day I had to leave back to my city… Fast forward 2 months later, I’m back and we meet at the office. He flirts a lot, compliments me, I do the same. However, I had to leave his side and ignore him on many occasions due to the nature of the work and to my supervisor having his eyes on me. Yet, he came around a few times to tell me how good I look in my work attire or to ask how it’s going. At the end of the day we said a quick bye. Later i texted him to ask what he meant about a specific thing he said. He never replied……….. We are still Fb friends. It’s not hard for him to reach my city (nor for me to reach his), so I don’t think distance is necessarily an issue. Plus, we work for the same company… and we have a very similar background, with passions & hobbies and all that (btw, he GUESSED some incredible things about myself – there was no clue at all for him to know, he just felt it within the first 5 minutes). It really hurts that he ignored my text after he appeared so smitten with me. I feel I was too powerful that day, I played with him a little, I maybe talked to much to other colleagues, seemed too confident and thus made him insecure (although deep inside I’m not). He seems the shy type regularly, troubled, critical of women with a big ego, perhaps really insecure of himself… and not the type who would get a lot of attention from females. But I like him. And I thought he liked me. I fear he might be scared of the competition and intimidated because I feel so good in this industry/company and I’m looking and feeling like a total “10”. Or is he just a jerk?…

    • Peter White


      Sounds like he’s all talk and no real action. Too many compliments. Too many promises with nothing to show for it. The thing is – what he’s doing or did worked on you so I’d be careful. Whether he’s playing a game or just aloof or doesn’t have the “balls” to follow through with anything doesn’t matter. What matters is – no action! And if you’re getting the feelings he’s insecure, worried about competition, or he’s intimated by you are not good signs when combined together with the lack of action.

      What will happen is YOU will have to be doing all the work, taking the leads, and following through to what he says he will do. This is generally not a good start. Be cautious. That’s all.

      Best of luck to you,

      • Sophia

        Pete, thank you so much for reading and replying! I appreciate it so much!
        I am in no way contacting this guy again. One text left without a reply is enough for me. He clicks on my posts on social media but no action from him…

  • John

    You women really need to get over yourselves. If he’s ignoring you HE DOESN’T LIKE YOU. Please take the hint and move on.

    So if 90-95% of men are “bad” with women, that makes the men wrong??? I’d say if 90-95% do things a certain way, that’s the way it’s going to be. Maybe all women are “bad with men”. But that would imply taking responsibility for yourself, and women just don’t do that.

    And why do you have a problem with introverts? That’s about 40-50% of the population. It’s fine to have your preferences, but you’ve really cut the population of potential partners. Trust me, introverts find extroverts (and women in particular) extremely annoying and don’t want anything to do with them. But introverts make the most loyal partners. Oh well … have it your way. Just quit complaining when you can’t get what you want.

  • Kim

    I just have to comment on this since we’re going into February and Valentine’s Day…..my answer: there’s more than one girl in the picture (in his mind whether it is true or not). Example, high school—daughter is a percussionist and sees how these other percussion guys are like a pattern…..I’ve told her she can’t date any of them—because it’s a soap opera. The guy thinks he’s a stud and that more than one girl is after him—we’ve seen this time and time again with the percussionists she has to deal with. He plays the girls almost like against each other–so they vye for his attention more—now over time this eventually passes and a girl gives up and heads to someone else—-but they think they’re like the football players and to them it’s all a game about being popular. My daughter will work with them, but she’s seen enough to know–don’t trust any of them. Usually, the girls think they’re all his “best friend” and well—it’s just interesting to see—by the end he usually doesn’t end up with any of them—again just a game to these percussionists–they like all the attention and will sway with whatever one tries the most at the time–sad really. Some of these girls are smart, pretty and these guys have these girls acting like he’s the only guy in the room—it’s ridiculous.

    • Peter White

      Thanks for sharing Kim – luckily, in my opinion, the majority of men after school and college will lose the opportunity to do those things. Out of the few who don’t grow out of it they find out quickly without the opportunity to use other women like that, they have no real skills in attracting women. The last (leftovers) will continue to frequent bars or old social areas and continue on the same path which leaves only a few guys.

      Thanks again.

      Your guy friend,

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