Don’t you hate it when the passive aggressive man gets under your skin?
How about when you really do like him but for some reason his silence drives you crazy?
It could be the one thing you don’t like about him.
Whether his mysterious silence tugs on your natural curiosity or pisses you off because it all seems so pointless, you can not help to wonder…
WHY – Why would a guy ignore you?
You’ve found the right place because you’ll find every reason why it’s listed below so you’ll never have to ask this question again.
Let’s get started.
We all can agree male – female interaction is almost always often situation based.
Meaning when your husband is ignoring you or withdrawing is very different than some now not-so-friendly guy at work who one day just stops talking to you. Both are as equally different than your new boyfriend going silent at certain times and other times talking your ear off.
How about when you’re out trying your best to meet a single guy but the ones you really want don’t even notice you. Almost like they are “ignoring” you too.
Of course let’s not forget about the guy who’s into you one minute then ignores you completely to flirt with your friends or when he’s with his buddies it’s like you DON’T EVEN EXIST!
Be it a now known fact:
Men don’t go silent unless there’s a real reason to do so.
But… and this is a big but – never forget some men go silent or only appear to ignore you because they literally have nothing to say AND they’re comfortable in the silence.
If you’re in a troubled relationship he might ignore you because he knows it pisses you off. Or he’s had a bad day and doesn’t want to talk about it.The wrong kind of pressure or the wrong type of communication in this circumstance will only make the problem worse.
This usually happens because of a breakdown in communication and unfortunately means your current relationship may be in trouble.
If this is happening to you, please read the second page of my free ebook over at my primary site for women, Why Do Guys…? Here’s the link:
You could also watch this video if you’re looking for very experienced help in bringing back your husband or boyfriend before it’s too late:
Some guys just get bad advice and use it on you.
They believe you rope a woman in, ignore her, and she’ll want you more. So in this case it means he likes you but really doesn’t understand how things are “supposed” to work with women.
Keeping in mind that tactic actually does work for lots of men – at least in getting your attention or curiosity. So to some guys if it’s worked before, they’ll continue the same tactics on every woman until they find one it works on.
Here’s a reason NO woman ever wants to hear but it must be said:
He’s not interested in you at all.
He believes the best way to make you go away is to ignore you. He doesn’t want to hurt your feelings and/or he’s not at all good with confrontation. Probably both.
This usually happens when a woman gets too aggressive, needy, or pushes a guy into a corner. He’ll avoid that corner and the thought of having to “small talk” his way out of the situation. He’ll be pleasant and nice but you’ll find he’ll ignore you every chance he gets.
To him it’s just easier that way.
Another very valid reason you could be ignored…
Because he’s not very good with women.
I know – not good with women???!! I dare say it but It’s absolutely true and unfortunately it’s very common among men.
Some say the percentage of men who are not good with women runs about 90 to 95%. That’s a pretty high number making the next part something all too likely to happen to you.
You see “this” guy gets nervous around you. He’s very shy and perhaps even borderline introverted. He could be so insecure just the thought of talking to you causes a severe case of lock-jaw.
He might even fear that if he opens his mouth he could literally scare you away. His silence has little to do with you and originates from the fact he’s shy and doesn’t believe he knows how to talk to a woman he likes – therefore being silent just kind of happens.
Next up… hard to believe there are this many reasons:
Your friend, boyfriend, or some guy you’re dating always seems to ignore you ONLY when he’s with other people.
They could be his family and he’s worried you won’t approve of them and in some rare cases he’s worried that they won’t approve of you.
They could be his friends and he hates acting like a boyfriend in front of them because it makes him feel less manly.
We will call him Mister DPD – or Mister Dual Personality Dude.
He’s the guy who only ignores you when you’re with other people and although it’s not the worst thing in the world – mind you it does suck when it’s happening to you, but the reasons are not always severe and can be overcome with a little communication.
However be warned, men who fall under the DPD category tend to be that way in many other areas so keep your eyes out for him.
Try to understand that sometimes he means the best and it’s not a big deal but other times, as in acting different around his friends, or treating your differently when he’s with other people is typically a bad sign. Consider your relationship with the second guy very carefully.
Okay, onto the next reason you might be ignored… this next one has another acronym: NDD. he also falls under the “not good with women” category.
He’s too much of a nice guy and becomes easily embarrassed. He refuses to chase, hit on, or flirt with a woman.
We can call him “Mister NDD or – Nice and Differently Disabled. That was me so I know a lot about him but I’ll try to quickly explain.
This guy is all too aware of what is happening between men and women. He sees other guys constantly hitting on you and flirting with you. He assumes those guys are only out to get in your pants and some of they actually are and I’m sure you already knew that… be he doesn’t know that you know.
The last thing Mister NDD wants is for you to see him as one of those guys. He wants you to see him as being different. He wants you to see him as liking you for you and not just another dude trying to get in your pants.
This is his weird little way of showing you he actually LIKES YOU.
Yes, I know, by ignoring you? How? What? Why?
While those guys are all up in your butt trying and trying, he’s dreaming of being with you and doesn’t have a clue on how to make it happen.
You will notice that he only talks to you when no one else is around. He waits for you to be alone. He plans his days or times around making sure he gets your full attention. He will also leave quickly if someone else comes around.
Sound familiar now? Hope so because believe it or not, especially among a younger school or college crowd or a guy from work, he’s very common.
There are Mister NDD’s everywhere if you know where to look and now that you know the signs to look for.
We’ve covered a lot so far but yes, hope you’re enjoying this secret information about men, because we’re not done yet.
Next… what if the guy IS good with women. He’s actually quite easy to figure out IF you’re not dating him and only come in contact with him occasionally.
IF this guy (the 5 to 10% of guys who are gifted with women and are not players, jerks, or the typical asses) ignores you it’s not all bad but it’s not all good either.
He doesn’t enjoy talking to you.
Let’ get the bad out of the way because it’s simple and better explained in my now controversial more real article at why do guys:
You’ll find a whole list of reason why some women push away guys and cause their silence. It’s tough to take it all in but I did try to keep it beneficial and helpful and hopefully you understand that many of the items on the list are easily fixed so you never have to worry about it again.
Now to the sort-of good part.
Friendly or not. He doesn’t want to lead you on. He’s ignoring you because he’s just not interested. However you must understand, a guy who is that good with women and a decent man won’t just ignore you so it’s very rare.
Most of the time the better guy is not ignoring you. He’s just living his life. Sometimes your paths will cross. Sometimes they won’t. Unless you really catch his eye or you’re a blast to be around he won’t make of an effort to spark up a conversation.
Told you it’s good and bad.
Of course this does not include waitresses, cashiers, or any friendly public “service” worker who does her job quite well. If you’re ignored in that situation then it’s probably because he’s “out of it” totally, engrossed in a conversation with someone else, or you’re unfortunately doing a terrible job and he’s too nice to say anything about. But I’m positive you’re not here for that reason.
More good and this is the really cool part.
You have to understand men who are or who appear to be naturally successful attracting women usually don’t make women a priority. It may appear you’re being ignored when in reality you’re over-thinking the situation.
I see it happen to lots of guys and with women it’s no different. They somehow believe she(he) is doing something, anything, pondering or even fantasizing about him or her because they either caught each other’s eyes or talked once.
For this post, never assume he is doing something to you and you’ll increase your chance at meeting some incredible guys.
Because now you know this undeniable fact about men, dating, and attraction… pay attention because this will literally change it all for you when it comes to meeting and interacting with better guys:
If he’s ignoring you for his benefit or yours…
- Playing hard to get or any ignore game to lead you on…
- Being Mister DPD or treating you differently when you’re around others…
- Refusing to talk things out or learning how to communicate with you better…
- Trying to follow some outdated dating rules…
- Unable to see that you’re smart enough to know when a guy is just trying to get in your pants…
- Follows bad advice when it comes to women instead of leading like a real man should…
- Ignores you because he’s not interested in you but is not strong enough to just tell you he’s not interested…
Assume his life revolves around the female form in a bad way. He’s just trying to beat the system or is failing to admit reality for what it is.
Now you must admit when a guy like THAT does IGNORE you, he’s actually doing you a real favor because now you know to stay far away from him, or get away from, and/or just to let him go and move on to better men who are less passive aggressive with you.
The rest of the guys, although their reasons may not be great, they’re certainly valid for them and are not doing it to cause you harm, hurt you, or play some weird twisted game…
Lastly make sure you read my online Ebook on the silent man. The opening page is located at Why Do Guy…?: Silent Guys – Why Men Go Quiet, Won’t Share Feelings, or Ignore Women.. 6 pages are written and more are on their way.
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Your host and guy friend,
Pete (Peter White)