How To Make Him Miss Being With You – Naturally With No Mind Games

Him Going Miss Being With You

Written by Peter White – Creator and writer at Why Do Guys…?

You can not MAKE a guy miss you with honorable results but you certainly have some options which will up his desire to be with you which means, when you’re not around he’s going to miss BEING with you.

BUT first –  WHY do you want him to miss you?

Do you feel he’s not being attentive to your needs, almost like he’s taking you for granted?

Do you believe if he misses you more he’ll come around more often, he’ll pay more attention to you, he won’t just contact you when he’s looking for sex or a casual hang out which could lead to sex?

Do you think by him missing you it will help “capture his heart” and make him want to “finally” commit to you?

Do you want to make him sad when he’s not with you which in turn could make him believe his happiness depends on you – again – making him come around more often which could lead to something more long-term over what you have with him now?

OR…

As Carlos Cavallo is famous for saying in this video  “Some women are Cookies, some are Broccoli – Which one are you?” (among other reasons why he’s great of course) you feel like a piece of Broccoli and you don’t want him to look at you like you’re the safe, easy – healthy choice; you’d rather have him see you as the tasty Cookie – bad for you in excess but tasty and irresistible nonetheless.

Someone who he sees that gives him that sugar rush – gives him energy – inspires and fills him up until he’s overstuffed with love for YOU?

Now that we’ve taken care of the WHY and feel free to leave your reason below…

You must know that I’m a guy and I can GUARANTEE that if ANY “normal” guy figures out you set out with a plan to MAKE him miss you – he’s not going to respond very well when the truth comes out.

You could actually push him further from missing you into resentment – which is not something you would want to happen.

With that said – Let’s consider how people in general do miss something…

First they must have it, right? Hard to miss something you’ve never had. You might want it but missing it is not in the cards.

So what do you do…

Shower him with attention – boost his Ego – and then take it all away until he realizes it not so easily come by anymore.

Text him sweet things everyday and then all of a sudden don’t even send him a
“Hello” or a how you doing…. and wait for him to notice you’re not texting him anymore – will that make him miss you?

You can see this whole concept is a little dastardly – there’s certainly an element of some form of game being played and I KNOW you don’t want that.

So what is the BEST way to GET him to miss being with you so he’ll want to be around you more often and step up his own game of chasing you?

There’s an actual formula and no I’m not talking about the physics or math type so that’s good.

Attraction – it must be created – it MUST be present – it works better if it’s the right kind of attraction because if it’s purely physical, the outcome probably wont be what you expected.

I’m not going to lie to you, if a guy is not feeling it for you, he will NEVER miss you in the way you want no matter HOW you go about trying to achieve it.

Practice attraction communication from the beginning – You can start by reading these:

Connection – you must be deeply connected to him through your feelings and your heart and he must think and believe and feel the same way about you.

Connect with a man – heart to heart – don’t try it any other way. The wrong ways are listed here: The Right & Wrong Ways To Try and Connect With A Man.

When you connect with him in this way NO man will want to be away from you for an extended period of time because once you’re in his heart – when you’re gone or not instantly accessible, he will feel like he’s missing something very important and that will be YOU.

The way in which you live your life everyday.

Let’s be honest – if you’re always there for him, if you’re always giving up your life for his, if at any given time he can contact you, if he knows what you’re doing all the time – you’re not giving him any “real” reason to miss you.

The HARD part of this one is what you do in between and HOW you live your life so you’re not just left with avoiding his calls or ignoring him “hoping” he’ll believe you’re not doing it purposely.

The way around the game playing is simply:

Ignore all the lame advice that you have to GET a life – that’s obvious and overstated and doesn’t offer any real value on how it’s done.

You WILL have a life all your own if you follow those points above. You won’t have to go get one, it’s already there – everyone HAS one BUT you must tweak it a little so it works better for you and draws men in that will sooner or later – miss being in your life when it’s not physically possible.

Time and space and not the Einstein version.

If there’s not much time and space created between you and him – you will not give him the opportunity to miss being with you.

If you followed the advice above as best as you can you will automatically create this important element with ANY guy.

This article explains why it should happens and what happens when you allow it: Are You Stopping Him From Falling For You? Let Him Chase You!

Again – it’s best NOT to make it a game if you want him to sincerely miss you the right way – naturally – which is best achieved by using what was written above in the best way possible.

Now…

I know this sounds bad and it may not be what you want to hear – because so much advice on this subject involves quick tips which only get you so far BUT…

The REAL SECRET to getting a guy to miss being with you is in the formula above and it’s no more complicated than that… .ever!

Any attempt to do so beyond the list is a game and guys won’t like it any more than you enjoy when a guy does it to you.

You will NEVER build a solid foundation to a long-term relationship that way because eventually, it will ALL come crashing down.

I’ll wrap this all up by going over some of the questions I asked of you in the beginning:

Do you feel he’s not being attentive to your needs, almost like he’s taking you for granted?

If you feel like you’re being taken for granted by him – like he doesn’t appreciate you enough when he had before OR if the spark is somehow fizzling out or is not what it used to be AND if he would just miss you more it could bring some of the romance back…

This “getting to miss being with you” is NOT the solution to your problem because it’s a communication problem mixed with many other things not easily solved with the advice above.

I have posted a few articles here that will get you started in the right direction. Here’s the main page: Katie and Gay Hendricks – Hearts In Harmony – Making Love Last – they are relationship doctors and experts in communication in relationships.

If it’s simply a matter of bringing back the romance – this guy can help you with that: Brian Robbens – Respark The Romance.

Do you believe if he misses you more he’ll come around more often, he’ll pay more attention to you, he won’t just contact you when he’s looking for sex or a casual hang out which could lead to sex?

Sure – if he were to miss you more that COULD work but on the sadder side of things – when a man IS only contacting you under those terms it’s not predictable he will EVER be interested in something more.

A physical connection (alone) rarely leads to something more unless major changes are made. It typically means you haven’t created an emotional attraction and there’s little heart to heart connection going on OR he’s simply not interested in something more with you.

Make sure you read the connection article I linked above first :  The Right & Wrong Ways To Try and Connect With A Man to learn how you’ve connected with him AND find a way to decide if you’re causing it or if he’s just NOT the right guy for you.

Rori shows you how to connect with men and Dr. Randi Gunther Ph.D from Heroic Love will help you figure out if he’s actually the right guy for you in her amazing workbook series: Finding Keepers.

Do you think by him missing you it will help “capture his heart” and make him want to “finally” commit to you?

IF you’re believe this is a commitment issue – meaning you think if he would just miss being with you more then he’ll commit  to you quicker or take the necessary steps to move the relationship to the next step…

Then I will say – for a man to fully commit to being with her – just missing her is NOT the reason why.

Many other things are going on which is stopping it from happening and you can read many of them here: 10 Reasons Why Men Won’t Commit And What To Do About It

Do you want to make him sad when he’s not with you which in turn could make him believe his happiness depends on you – again – making him come around more often which could lead to something more long-term over what you have with him now?

Being in the relationship and dating business for just about ten years has taught me lots of things and this one remains solid and always true:

You do NOT ever want someone whose happiness is dependent solely on you.

Over time this is a recipe for a relationship disaster.

If he feels sad and misses you, that’s one thing – but when a man’s source of happiness comes from you specifically that reliance will not only prove over-bearing to you in the future, it will eventually turn him into a guy you won’t want in your life anymore.

Yes – it will work BUT will the results be desirable and beneficial for both of you – NOPE!

Stick to the lessons and formula I listed above and refrain from anything that is designed to make him feel bad, sad, or dependent on you for too much of his happiness and it will be alright and much better in the end.

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