The only guys who seriously ask me about “pickup lines” seem to believe there’s some magical words you can say to a woman which will have her “begging” them to take her home.
Maybe they’re trying to keep it “manly” and they’re really looking for a way to break the ice smoothly.
Who knows, perhaps saying, “I desperately need a conversation starter!” makes them feel like they’re only looking to meet a friend and if I know guys, asking another guy how to make friends is not something they want to do… ever.
Avoid saying the WRONG thing – which just so happens to be one of the worst pickup lines ever…
Oh and also make sure you create a few things in your interaction with as many women as you can.
Below is an excerpt from “The Worst Pickup Line in the World!” and I’ve highlighted the most important part of socializing with women.
Read it first and I’ll explain more after…
Hey guys, Dean Cortez here. I’m going to give you one of my FAVORITE openers to use on girls (it works over 90% of the time), but first, let me ask you a quick question:
What’s the WORST “pick up line” in the world?
You’re probably thinking it’s something cheesy, like:
“Hey, do you have a map? Because I keep getting lost in your eyes.”
“Baby, I hope you know CPR, because you take my breath away.”
“Pardon me, I seem to have lost my phone number. Can I borrow yours?”
“Do you have a mirror in your pocket? Because I can see myself in your pants.”
I could go on…
There are a million corny pick up lines you could bust out on a girl…and as you can probably imagine, they don’t work.
In fact, you’re more likely to get kicked in the nuts, or have a drink thrown in your face, than you are to hook up with her after using one of those groan-worthy openers.
But hey, at least they’re sort of funny.
Most guys don’t even try to be funny or original right off the bat.
Instead, they use the WORST pick up line of all:
I know it just sounds like a harmless word.
But it’s actually the worst pick up line of all, because it communicates absolutely NOTHING.
It gives her NO REASON to want to talk to you. ( Unless you’re a dead ringer for David Beckham. In that case, it might get you somewhere. )
So now I want to talk to you for a minute about GOOD openers — SOLID opening questions/statements that will ‘catch a woman’s attention, trigger her curiosity, and make her want to get to know you.
Here’s an opener I use frequently, and it works like a charm:
“Why are girls from ______ so much fun?”
(Or, “so friendly?”)
This opener is especially effective if you’re visiting a new scene, or you recently moved to a new city or town.
I’ll give you an example…
Recently, I was on vacation in Miami. I was at a bar, and I saw four cute girls having drinks. So I walked up to them, smiled, and said:
“Why are girls from Miami so much fun?”
This immediately caused the girls to smile and pay attention to me.
This opener works on a subconscious level because you’re”labeling” the girls a certain way.
You’re TELLING them that they’re fun.
And it’s a rule of human nature that when you TELL a person they are something they want to be (fun, cool, smart, interesting, etc), they’re going to act in a way that fits the label.
Hey, they wouldn’t want me to think they’re the ONLY four girls in Miami who are NOT fun!
So now, the Miami girls wanted to BE fun and fit the label. right. Then, I simply used a couple of the easy conversation starter techniques from my book “Mack Tactics” book, and suddenly all four girls were surrounding him, laughing, having a great time, and eating out of the palm of my hand.
After I used a couple of “playful teases,” all four girls were COMPETING for my attention!
Over the past few years, my buddies and I have figured out ( and tested ) DOZENS of openers that are like armor-piercing bullets that penetrate any woman’s “force field.”
And from there, I’ll teach you EXACTLY what to say to “connect” with women and create a sense of chemistry.
I put together a short presentation which reveals a bunch of my best approach tactics.
Watch it here: The Approach Formula – How To Approach Women
Dean mentions a few things which I believe puts all this “socializing” thing together which you might have missed.
Although he glances over it quickly I believe it’s key to what you want to accomplish.
This is the secret to approaching women:
- Catch a woman’s attention.
- Trigger her curiosity.
- Make her want to get to know you.
I know you can catch any woman’s attention a million different ways.
The best possible way is to engage her on an emotional level. I don’t mean piss her off – just add a little edge.
Something she has a “real” opinion on.
Women or “people” are normally curious if you’re an interesting person.
We all don’t live exotic or exciting lives BUT I’m sure you can find a few things about you which engages their curiosity.
If you can’t find something it’s not that bad because – You have your answer. Forget about approaching women for a few weeks, either “find” yourself or START doing some things other might find curious.
Making her WANT to get to know you sort of takes cares of itself after. That is IF you just don’t give it all. Hold back “humorously” and “tease” her into getting more information about you and your hopes, dreams, and aspirations.
Give her just to enough and let her imagination fun with it.
Making her WANT to get to know also means being “interested” in knowing who she is.
I wouldn’t ask her a ton of boring questions but if your focus is on her, and you listen, AND you play with it a little, that will keep you from giving away too much information – which in turn will leave a little mystery about you.
Let’s go back to the “worst pickup line” ever and finish this all out…
Remember what Dean wrote, “It communicates NOTHING.”
I want to add something to it.
Starting with it is okay IF it is followed with something which DOES communicate all those three things above.
Women WANT to be “socialized” if that’s what it takes for them to meet some cool and friendly potential dates BUT they don’t want to feel like you’re just picking them up.
If you do what we’ve covered today, even if she knows you’re “picking her up” she won’t feel like you’re just “one lining her into bed.”
The fact is they know… trust me women know what’s going on but,
Do it differently, catch her attention, trigger he curiosity, be interesting enough to make her want to get to know you…
And you’ll turn the worst pickup line ever into one of the best conversations she FELT she’s ever had.
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