Why Men Do What They Do And How To Change It


ALL men have basics needs you can use to make your relationships happier AND healthier.

Written by Randall E. Bennett, MA, LMFT, LCPC – Melt Your Man’s Heart

Have you ever wondered why your man does the things he does?

Did you ever wonder why men do some of the CRAZY things they do?

Did you ever feel completely puzzled by your man’s behavior?

If it seems like sometimes his behavior is completely weird or irrational, don’t feel bad… because you’re exactly right.

You see, science teaches us that while some of our desires and drives are conscious, many of them are not. This is ESPECIALLY true for men.

While most men would NEVER admit this (most don’t even know it), some of their behaviors, drives, and desires are biologically driven.

Why Sometimes Men Don’t Have a Choice…

In other words, in some areas, men don’t have a choice.

They are simply “wired” a certain way.

This is why he can seem considerate and thoughtful one moment, and callous and cold a few seconds later.

This is why sometimes you’re caught off-guard by his unexpected harsh words, or cold behavior. It’s why you’re sometimes left feeling as if he “pulled the rug out from under you”.

But don’t worry. None of this is an excuse to let him get away with stupid behavior. In fact, it’s a key to getting what you want from your man.

To Get What You Want from Your Man, Understand This…

Change starts when we recognize the simple biological differences between men and women.

For instance….

Women generally want connection and family: they define themselves by their relationships.

They have the nurturing instinct, the need to take care of others and maintain the health and wellness of the people they care for.

Men, however, generally identify themselves by what they do: they want to be providers.

A man has a need to take care of the family and be the breadwinner. It is a subconscious need — most men are not even aware that they have this need or drive.

While men have many of these subconscious drives, there are at least five basic needs that all men have deep within themselves; if any of these needs are not being met, it will cause problems in your relationship.

The 5 Basic Needs that ALL Men Have…What are these needs?

  1. Words of affirmation and praise.
  2. A sense of being respected.
  3. The feeling that he is being listened to and heard.
  4. Physical touch. (This doesn’t necessarily mean sex, but rather affection.)
  5. Intimacy and bonding (yes, believe it or not!)

All you have to do is meet these five basic needs, and meet them consistently, to see your relationship transformed right before your eyes.

Meeting these needs gives you a great deal of influence with your man — he’ll be willing to do almost ANYTHING you ask, at the drop of a hat, because you have suddenly become the source of most of the good feelings he’s having about his life.

He may not even realize what’s happening.

The best part is, this is “ethical influence” because you’re meeting his most basic psychological needs. Not wants, but needs.

It’s as if you are nourishing his soul.

And what do YOU get out of the deal?

The man you want — the man who adores you, shows true affection towards you, and puts you ahead of everything else in his life. Click here for 3 More Tips On How to Get Your Man to Do What You Want…

Try it today, and see for yourself.

I wish you the best,

Randall E. Bennett, MA, LMFT, LCPC

A man’s brain and behavior can be tough to predict, but I’ve identified a set of secret triggers, that when accessed, will wake him up so he’s more interested in what YOU are saying than in the darn remote control.


By using a particular set of words and phrases – triggers that set off new patterns in his brain – you will cause your man to automatically…

See you…

Hear you…


… to listen without criticizing, and let you share your feelings without trying to “fix” you.

And the best part is that I figured out how to do this without trickery, manipulation, begging, or drama.

Randy Bennett is a licensed relationship expert and he’s discovered that women who succeed with men have a kind of “magic confidence” they use that can literally crack open the heart of even the most difficult man and get him to treat you better.

More great advice from Randy here at the approach

How To Get What You Want From Your Man In 3 Simple Steps
3 Things To NEVER Say To A Man Unless You Want To Be Alone
Randall E. Bennet – What Men Secretly Want – Melt Your Man’s Heart

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