Reveal How He Feels With Two Quick Text Messages

Guy Revealing How Feel With Text

Written by Peter White – Creator and writer at Why Do Guys…?

I bet you’re a “master text-er.” You can whip out your phone faster than any of your guy friends and you know how to use it.

If only your “love life” worked as efficiently as your text messages you wouldn’t have to be searching for an answer today.

You might have your phone under control but those men, you know the ones who elude you at every turn, like they’re actually trying to piss you off or play some silly dating game.

They have a serious problem with a seemingly simple task of just texting you back.

It annoys you so much you feel like ripping your hair out because you just don’t understand…WHY!

Give me a few minutes of your time today and I promise to get to the bottom of why a guy doesn’t text you back and…

You will also get two simple texts to send a guy which will reveal if he’s worth your time and if he’s interested in you.

Let’s get real about this problem.

Men are not the best with their phone skills when it comes to an attractive woman such as yourself. Keep that in mind and expect anything and everything from him with regards to texting.

It’s no secret that lots of men are terrible “texters.” In fact I’ve sold so many “texting guides for men” without even trying that there must be something going on with their terrible texting habits.

Okay, let’s play fair – women just like you buy them too but that’s neither here nor there.

Here is where I’m going to show you a practically guaranteed method to get him to text you back quicker with two easy texts.

(Go ahead and let me know how it worked for you below… the bad and the good.)

SEND THIS: I was just thinking about you. 🙂

If you get no response within five minutes…

SEND THIS: HA! And now you have the pleasure of thinking about me. 😉

DO NOT send another text until you hear back from him.

If he’s not into you you’re going to find out quickly.

How he responds says everything about how much he’s attracted to you and what type of guy he really is.

If he doesn’t respond and you’re completely positive (without a doubt) there’s not a good reason, then he is just not that interested in you.

I know it sucks but hey, two texts to see if a guy is into you is not really an investment which is going to break your emotional bank, is it?

I’ll explain why it works.

Men can not resist wondering if a potential girlfriend is thinking about them.

He’ll get that “cocky” look in his eye when it’s happening and it drives him crazy when he has to guess. He now knows you’re thinking about him and when you “suggest” he’ll be thinking about you, he will have no choice but to do just that…

Think about you in a way which is close to how he FEELS about you.

Because when a man can not get an image of a woman out of their mind he finds himself desiring her more and more.

Here’s the cool part of about this simple text routine.

You’ll know quickly what TYPE of man you’re dealing with. He’ll either crumble or step up to the plate of your flirty text. In other words – he will either shut up or put up.

And the really cool part is that you’re not forcing the issue at all.

It doesn’t come off as needy or desperate which makes him want to reply to you even more.

You’re making a quick statement which doesn’t even require a response which is what you want because he’ll text back IF he’s into you and based on what he texts back – will reveal how much and in which way he is interested in you.

You’ve read how to get him to “Man-Up” with you so I felt it only right to give you some common and not so common reasons on why a guy does not or can not text you back:

1. He’s busy at work.
2. His phone service sucks.
3. He has a wife or girlfriend who is close by.
4. He’s on a date.
5. He’s having sex with another woman.. or man. :O
6. You send him too many “forwards.”
7. You don’t send him any real pictures of you.
8. He’s not interested or attracted to you.
9. He thinks texting you back too quickly goes against the “dating code.”
10. He’s driving somewhere.
11. His battery is dead or his phone is lost once again.
12. He is showering or doing something in the bathroom.
13. He is masturbating.

13 Real Reasons Why A Guy Will Not, Can Not, or Does Not Text You Back

Now that you know what to text him PLEASE before you send the routine – there are some very important warnings you must be aware of:

  • Don’t over use it on one guy or you’ll kill its effect. It’s a one and done kind of thing unless you change it.
  • Change it slightly to fit your personal situation. Constantly develop it and mix in some flirty humor.
  • Understand there are reasons beyond a man’s control which make it impossible to respond immediately. Be patient.
  • If you insist on texting him again before he responds, wait at least 24 hours and then text this, “I think that picture I sent you yesterday is going to get me in trouble. :p “. I’m telling you this one works amazingly well but it’s sexual overtone is not for everyone.
  • If you are not having fun with it you’re doing something wrong. Comment below what happened and I’ll see what I can do for you.
  • Sending a sexy picture of you will get a response but depending on his age he will show it to his friends so expect that to happen. Younger men in particular. Sending pictures do work but they are more effective in other ways.

You have the texting routine, some of the reasons why it works and how it does it’s magic; you also have a stamped-out list of why a guy will not or can not text you back…


HOW do you know how he feels or if he’s interested in you just by what or if he texts you back.

The obvious first:

If you don’t hear anything back AFTER the two texts, and a reasonable amount of time passes – it will generally mean he’s either not interested  (in that way) OR he’s with someone else romantically. Either way it’s a clear sign to not text him again.

If he plays into your flirty text then that’s a good sign he’s attracted to you.

Interest is something else.

The difference is attraction is what we feel towards women, interest is what we feel when we want to explore those feelings more with you.

If he responds back in a less flirty kind of weird boring way – this means one of two things:

He doesn’t know how to flirt or text flirt (which is the less probably reason) OR he’s not attracted to you or interested in exploring the romantic side with you.

Sure you can try again but it’s not advisable because there are many other opportunities with other men.

Why waste your time, energy, and amazing texting skills on a guy who is either not into you or doesn’t even know how to text flirt with a woman he likes.

Us guys, okay well it’s a human thing but, when someone texts us something like what I’ve asked you to send, we can not help but to interpret what it means based on HOW we’re feeling about the person who is sending it to us. It’s human nature to be curious.

Think about it.

The message isn’t really sexual at all.

Sure it’s a little flirty but sexual, I think not.

The interpretation then becomes more of a personal thing to the person receiving it.

Imagine if someone you’ve known for years as (just a friend) sends you it. Wouldn’t you think it was a little creepy? Wouldn’t it be way out of character?

Downright weird and certainly random.

It wouldn’t feel sexual at all because it’s interpreted by you as coming from someone who is… just a friend.

But when it comes to a relationship which is not known or clearly defined, meaning he could be into you or not, attracted to you or not, (the text message) is ambiguous in nature.

It could be interpreted either way.

Which is why it works and how it WILL work for you.

The guy being sent the message interprets it based on how he feels about you or how he sees you – romantically, attracted, as a friend, a potential date, etc…

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  • Kate

    Hope you have a good day 🙂
    Mine is not so good actually all summer I have been thinking about one guy I met him in February on tinder I did not trust this app but hey why not to give it a try. We started to talk on what’s app he seemed interested asking questions, although he was not responding so fast I knew in the morning there will be a message from he but at the beginning of summer he changed less messages sometimes 4 days he is busy but I think he lost interest in me … he lives in Germany I live in Poland .. is there anything I can do ? 5 days ago he went to London he sent me photos I asked him how long will he be staying there he did not answer … I sent him one more message’ I feel jelous I would love to go to uk, have fun ‘ he did not respond but it is marked as seen on messenger . What else can I write ? Should I give up.? I kind of like him although we haven’t actually met in real life. .
    Thanks for help in advance

    • Meme

      Ignore him , give him time to miss you , reply late . Then send him som pics of you having fun so he can imagine how life will look like with you . Don’t be so available

  • Amber

    Hello, I have been dealing with a guy, who is very hot and cold. We were intimate, but then he got cold. Since, we have hung out a few times and had a blast, but he was still confusing. He usually responds to texts, but I tried the “Two text messages” on FB messenger. I saw that he read them shortly after, but he never responded to either one.

    • Peter White


      I would consider when and why he contacts you and a little about how quickly he responds to you IF you want to see he bigger picture here.

      If it’s only late nights, drunk texts, sexual topics, few and far between… then chances are he hot and cold because he only wants you around when he’s hot.

      If he consistently taking a day or two or more to get back to you, that’s not him being cold, that’s his way of saying I don’t want a relationship right now but doesn’t necessarily mean he’s not interested in one later. Most men understand the more (and quicker) they respond is interpreted by a woman to mean something else. Whether that’s what it really means doesn’t matter. Remember – it’s not the intention that matters – it’s how someone else interprets the action or intention.

      One more thing – WHEN you sent the texts will also play a role. I believe the earlier you sent these very specific texts, will mean the less likely you’re going to get a response even from a guy who is totally into you.


  • Cindy Yan


    My name is Cindy and I’ve been texting a guy for a while…
    so my story is.. I met this cute guy at church and at first I didn’t really know about him but gradually I started to like him (started 6 months ago) so I’ve been in his fellowship for quite sometimes. He looked at me couple of times (more like staring me) and smiled at me. When it was over, he usually hangs out with his friends and when his friends leave… he started talking to me. He doesn’t really flirt with other girls I see, he’s really conservative. Im also pretty quiet at times but when I started talking to him, I feel really relaxed.. we talked about different things and hobbies.

    When I added him on this we chat- Chinese version of facebook- he added me immediately. Im not really a texter tbh.. but I really wanted to talk to him more so I started the conversation first. I usually start with 1 text and wait til he respond.. which he did it pretty quick… less than 30 minutes (sometimes immediately.). But, the thing is.. he never initiates conversation. I initiated several times but that time.. I was only asking him some questions regarding church service. He asked me out twice (one time it was a group dinner but I didn’t have time to attend… and another one was a another group fellowship.. which was also kind of far.. so I didn’t really attend)

    I’m not sure if he’s interested in me or am I bothering him? I don’t text him often but whenever we see each other, he smiles at me a lot!!! Although, he’s kind of quiet guy… but really talkative when he’s with his friends. He’s also single. We both play piano at church and we all serve in the church. I just texted him that we can see each at church and we can chat all we want… (also, sometimes his reply is short sometimes long/ he loves to send me cute emoji)

    I really like him but sometimes.. it’s confusing.. >.> and he’s 1 years younger than me.

    I’m in 4th year university and he’s in third year uni…

    Also I post things on we chat… and he liked all my photos and status.. ( i think he does that to other people but I’m not so sure… lol)

    I don’t text abbreviations when I’m with him 🙂

  • Monique

    Hi, I read your article above and I really find it interesting. Tried the two messages and got a reply from the guy, but I’m still not sure how he really feels about me. Can you help me figure it out?

    • Peter White

      Monique, what did he text you back?

  • Dani


    I met a guy on Tinder. We have been texting for about 6 weeks. We had plans to meet twice but he couldn’t make it either time…once he said his daughter’s mother’s family had a family emergency and he had to get his daughter. The second time he said he lost his phone and couldn’t contact me. Recently, he never initiates conversations. He says he’s been sick. I feel like I am bugging him but he told me he doesn’t mean to make me feel unwanted by him. I already asked him not to waste our time…if he’s not interested, just tell me. Can you help me understand what he’s doing?

    • Peter White

      Hi Dani,

      Things happen which are beyond our control and I can understand an unfortunate series of events. I’ve had some pretty bad days myself BUT I also know one thing when it comes to online dating, IF the person always has an excuse and it continues to happen, something is wrong and that list is too long and complicated to get into.

      If I were you – I would wait a week or two before contacting this guy. Definitely keep dating or searching for other possible opportunities.

      After that, find something or do something publicly with your friends OR find a public place you normally go anyways. Text him, “Hey… I’m going to be here. It would great if you randomly showed up.”

      Notice his response. Being random there’s a good chance he won’t be able to make it. If he does and shows up… cool. If not then text, “Bummer but hey, find some time and let’s get together. Deal?”.

      If he doesn’t contact you or give you a real response within a reasonable amount of time, probably 5 to 10 days, then delete him.

      Remember, once or twice, things happen. Bugging him will only make it worse or push him away. We (men) get your message and respond accordingly.

      However… consistent avoidance is NEVER a good sign and if any guys keeps doing it to you that’s a perfect time to hit delete and move on before you get sucked into something which is more difficult to get out.

      Don’t bother asking to not waste your time or whether or not he’s interested in you. Trust me, that does more damage than good.

      If you do certain things right, even just a little, with regards to “luring a guy” and offering some sort of open and available to be courted, AND a guy still isn’t taking ACTION, something is wrong and you’ll be wasting your time.

      Best to you,


  • Sue

    And I got a response saying he didn’t recognize the number but he was doing well. And when I told him my name he ignored me. Next!

  • Saba

    Here is my story, I met a guy at language class around five months ago and he was so good with me at class and also in online group that we had for our class in Telegram app . I mean that was a group that all the members of class was on that
    He responded to most of the thing I sad at group and in the class he set always next to me and very close and also ask lots of questions from me and we were very good but he didn’t ever text me in person
    When the class was over for some other reasons he forced to leave the online group
    I text him in personal and ask about something from class after that and he replied very good and nice but after he didn’t show up any more.
    After these months I still have feelings for him and consequently I text him yesterday and say hi how are you ?
    He saw the text because its appears in this app but he didn’t reply
    Now I am so sotty and regretful what should I do I wanna kill my self please help me

  • Valery

    Hello Peter,

    So I sent him that text and he replied with “hope they were good thoughts”.

    Is that supposed to be a good sign ?

    • Peter White

      Hello Valery,

      It does sound like a good sign. I mean it’s not the greatest response but it does show that he wants you to think “good” of him.


  • Vilma

    OMG he did text me right away when I text that I was thinking of him. That’s the fastest text I’ve ever received from him.

    • Peter White

      Great to hear Vilma. 🙂

  • TT

    I meet a guy online, and we texted for a week and decide to meet in person, we make out, no sex, he texted after and consistently for two days and than the last message I got Said : “how is your day” I answered, ” it’s been good, busy, but good, what about yours? I didn’t get an answer for hours, literally 5 yours or so, I texted him back saying: Hi, hope you are having a good evening. and it has now been 1 day and I haven’t hard back, is he dead??? lol I kind of hope so!

    • Peter White

      Well I certainly hope he’s not dead. Haha! That would suck.

      BUT what I do see here is two people who went a little too far with the texting way too early AND who might be running out of things to say AND you can not expect any man or woman to answer too many texts when they’re just asking how their day is going or anything like that. It gets real boring and tiring very quickly.

      I realize it sounds like HE started and if he was here asking I’d tell him to relax and stop texting with her so much especially after just one date. AND I’d certainly tell him to wait until he can be a little more creative and fun.

      Remember it’s the time between the talking and seeing each other we absolutely need to realize the potential or find our feelings for someone which is genuine and beyond just some physical chemistry.

      In my eyes, physical chemistry is easy when two people are attracted to each other. Getting the communication part down despite those feelings is what makes or breaks a new connection.

      Just something to think about.

      Your guy friend,


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