Reveal How He Feels With Two Quick Text Messages

Guy Revealing How Feel With Text

Written by Peter White – Creator and writer at Why Do Guys…?

I bet you’re a “master text-er.” You can whip out your phone faster than any of your guy friends and you know how to use it.

If only your “love life” worked as efficiently as your text messages you wouldn’t have to be searching for an answer today.

You might have your phone under control but those men, you know the ones who elude you at every turn, like they’re actually trying to piss you off or play some silly dating game.

They have a serious problem with a seemingly simple task of just texting you back.

It annoys you so much you feel like ripping your hair out because you just don’t understand…WHY!

Give me a few minutes of your time today and I promise to get to the bottom of why a guy doesn’t text you back and…

You will also get two simple texts to send a guy which will reveal if he’s worth your time and if he’s interested in you.

Let’s get real about this problem.

Men are not the best with their phone skills when it comes to an attractive woman such as yourself. Keep that in mind and expect anything and everything from him with regards to texting.

It’s no secret that lots of men are terrible “texters.” In fact I’ve sold so many “texting guides for men” without even trying that there must be something going on with their terrible texting habits.

Okay, let’s play fair – women just like you buy them too but that’s neither here nor there.

Here is where I’m going to show you a practically guaranteed method to get him to text you back quicker with two easy texts.

(Go ahead and let me know how it worked for you below… the bad and the good.)

SEND THIS: I was just thinking about you. 🙂

If you get no response within five minutes…

SEND THIS: HA! And now you have the pleasure of thinking about me. 😉

DO NOT send another text until you hear back from him.

If he’s not into you you’re going to find out quickly.

How he responds says everything about how much he’s attracted to you and what type of guy he really is.

If he doesn’t respond and you’re completely positive (without a doubt) there’s not a good reason, then he is just not that interested in you.

I know it sucks but hey, two texts to see if a guy is into you is not really an investment which is going to break your emotional bank, is it?

I’ll explain why it works.

Men can not resist wondering if a potential girlfriend is thinking about them.

He’ll get that “cocky” look in his eye when it’s happening and it drives him crazy when he has to guess. He now knows you’re thinking about him and when you “suggest” he’ll be thinking about you, he will have no choice but to do just that…

Think about you in a way which is close to how he FEELS about you.

Because when a man can not get an image of a woman out of their mind he finds himself desiring her more and more.

Here’s the cool part of about this simple text routine.

You’ll know quickly what TYPE of man you’re dealing with. He’ll either crumble or step up to the plate of your flirty text. In other words – he will either shut up or put up.

And the really cool part is that you’re not forcing the issue at all.

It doesn’t come off as needy or desperate which makes him want to reply to you even more.

You’re making a quick statement which doesn’t even require a response which is what you want because he’ll text back IF he’s into you and based on what he texts back – will reveal how much and in which way he is interested in you.

You’ve read how to get him to “Man-Up” with you so I felt it only right to give you some common and not so common reasons on why a guy does not or can not text you back:

1. He’s busy at work.
2. His phone service sucks.
3. He has a wife or girlfriend who is close by.
4. He’s on a date.
5. He’s having sex with another woman.. or man. :O
6. You send him too many “forwards.”
7. You don’t send him any real pictures of you.
8. He’s not interested or attracted to you.
9. He thinks texting you back too quickly goes against the “dating code.”
10. He’s driving somewhere.
11. His battery is dead or his phone is lost once again.
12. He is showering or doing something in the bathroom.
13. He is masturbating.

13 Real Reasons Why A Guy Will Not, Can Not, or Does Not Text You Back

Now that you know what to text him PLEASE before you send the routine – there are some very important warnings you must be aware of:

  • Don’t over use it on one guy or you’ll kill its effect. It’s a one and done kind of thing unless you change it.
  • Change it slightly to fit your personal situation. Constantly develop it and mix in some flirty humor.
  • Understand there are reasons beyond a man’s control which make it impossible to respond immediately. Be patient.
  • If you insist on texting him again before he responds, wait at least 24 hours and then text this, “I think that picture I sent you yesterday is going to get me in trouble. :p “. I’m telling you this one works amazingly well but it’s sexual overtone is not for everyone.
  • If you are not having fun with it you’re doing something wrong. Comment below what happened and I’ll see what I can do for you.
  • Sending a sexy picture of you will get a response but depending on his age he will show it to his friends so expect that to happen. Younger men in particular. Sending pictures do work but they are more effective in other ways.

You have the texting routine, some of the reasons why it works and how it does it’s magic; you also have a stamped-out list of why a guy will not or can not text you back…


HOW do you know how he feels or if he’s interested in you just by what or if he texts you back.

The obvious first:

If you don’t hear anything back AFTER the two texts, and a reasonable amount of time passes – it will generally mean he’s either not interested  (in that way) OR he’s with someone else romantically. Either way it’s a clear sign to not text him again.

If he plays into your flirty text then that’s a good sign he’s attracted to you.

Interest is something else.

The difference is attraction is what we feel towards women, interest is what we feel when we want to explore those feelings more with you.

If he responds back in a less flirty kind of weird boring way – this means one of two things:

He doesn’t know how to flirt or text flirt (which is the less probably reason) OR he’s not attracted to you or interested in exploring the romantic side with you.

Sure you can try again but it’s not advisable because there are many other opportunities with other men.

Why waste your time, energy, and amazing texting skills on a guy who is either not into you or doesn’t even know how to text flirt with a woman he likes.

Us guys, okay well it’s a human thing but, when someone texts us something like what I’ve asked you to send, we can not help but to interpret what it means based on HOW we’re feeling about the person who is sending it to us. It’s human nature to be curious.

Think about it.

The message isn’t really sexual at all.

Sure it’s a little flirty but sexual, I think not.

The interpretation then becomes more of a personal thing to the person receiving it.

Imagine if someone you’ve known for years as (just a friend) sends you it. Wouldn’t you think it was a little creepy? Wouldn’t it be way out of character?

Downright weird and certainly random.

It wouldn’t feel sexual at all because it’s interpreted by you as coming from someone who is… just a friend.

But when it comes to a relationship which is not known or clearly defined, meaning he could be into you or not, attracted to you or not, (the text message) is ambiguous in nature.

It could be interpreted either way.

Which is why it works and how it WILL work for you.

The guy being sent the message interprets it based on how he feels about you or how he sees you – romantically, attracted, as a friend, a potential date, etc…

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  • Athena

    He has been trying to keep distant from me so I sent the first text and he replied back “☺️” and ask “how are you?” What is that mean? We dated three months but he said he is afraid to like me. Though there are times he said he miss me a lot. He said he is afraid being hurt.

    • Peter White

      Hi Athena,

      He sent the (what I’m assuming) is the “blushing” emoticon as a sexual response. Like he’s honored but flushed that you were thinking about him. It’s obvious he’s into you but according to him is afraid to like you.

      What that usually means is sort of a bullshit line guys give to girls when they’re not ready, willing, or capable of getting into a relationship with you but don’t want to give up the “sex” or “fooling” around part. That way you’ll continue to chase him and he’ll have all the power to decide where things go. It also means he can date around and end up with another woman saying, “I told you I wasn’t ready. We’re not committed. We were not exclusive.”

      Be very cautious about guys who say they’re afraid to “like” a woman or continually claim they’re afraid of being hurt. It’s either a game, a cop out, a way around getting into a relationship without giving up the sexual parts, a way to keep you around and keep their power. IF it’s absolutely the truth, like they’re actually afraid of being in a relationship, then you can safely assume it’s not going to happen or if it does, it won’t last.

      Seriously, it’s one thing to be afraid of being hurt, or gun-shy with a woman because of past experiences, BUT it’s another thing to actually reveal that type of weakness to a woman.

      Your guy friend,


  • Jessey

    I met this guy back in February of this year and went out for a few months. I had to stop seeing and talking to him due to some court issues with a ex. Now that I’m done and able to get back on the dating. I texted him and we’ve texted back and forth. I asked him if he was seeing anyone. He told not really it’s more of a friendship since they have kissed or hugged. So we texted back in forth for a few days then it stop. The 4 days since the last text he sent me something about his daughters love my eyes. We texted again for a few days then it stop. Today I get a text saying I’m thinking about you wanted to say hi. I’m so confused and don’t know what do or say to him. I like him. I’ve liked him since February. Am I stuck in the friend zone or on the back burner till he figures out what to do this so called friendship?

    • Jessey

      Haven’t not have to the kissing or hugging.

    • Peter White

      Hi Jessey,

      He’s keeping his options a little open, that’s all. He appears to be getting back to you in a reasonable time. I would expect the relative silence in the middle as 1, he’s texting or seeing other women or woman, 2, he’s taking care of a family or stuff like that (being busy) , 3, He’s not appearing needy or desperate for attention.

      Either way, what he’s doing appears completely normal.


  • Nicole

    I am in desperate need of some advice. I used to work with a man that I really liked. We flirted all the time. (I.e. he would sneak up on me and scare me while I was working; we talked via chat at work etc.). Then he was moved up in management and was given a host of new responsibilities that caused him a lot of stress. He then quit flirting with me as much, so I asked him if I had done something. He apologized and said that it was in no way anything to do with me; he was just trying to “wrap his head around what they want him to do.” Not long after that, he informed me that not only was he leaving the company, but he was moving out of state to live with family up north where he could get a new job and start over and that he would miss me. (That hurt because I thought we had a “connection”.) Then Christmas came around and I got him something that I thought was heartfelt. He said he loves reading spiritual books, so I got him a book, a gift card, a hand-written letter, and his favorite candy. I asked him how he wanted me to give it to him…by leaving it on his desk at work or I offered to meet him somewhere or even bring it to his house. (Nothing sexual intended.) He asked me to bring it to his house, he invited me in, and as we were sitting on his couch talking, he said he wanted to ask me something. I jokingly said “uh oh” and he was like “fine I won’t ask….I’m just going to do it.” and then he kissed me for the first time. That quickly progressed and it was obvious we were both attracted to one another, and wanted to go further. However, I refrained, and told him I had to leave. A few days later, I went back to his house and we were intimate with each other. Before I left his house that night, he gave me a bag with my Christmas present in it. (He wrapped up $100 in cash with wrapping paper and put it in a bag with tissue.) He told me not to open it until I left (idk why?)
    Then before he was supposed to leave to head up north for good, I met him one more time, we made love one last time and I stayed for a while afterwards…we talked, he laid his head on my chest, I rubbed his head and his back….we hugged and laughed and just really enjoyed each other’s company. Then the next day he left.
    All the while, between “house visits” I tried to meet up with him just to spend time with him without it being sexual. (I.E, I offered to bring him lunch while he was packing because I knew he hadn’t ate, he respectfully declined; I told him I was going to Walmart pharmacy and he said he needed to go to Walmart automotive so we joked around about “accidentally bumping in to each other,” but when I went to find him, he had already left….I offered to come see him one Saturday morning but said it would be around 8 or 9 in the morning and he said he wanted to sleep in instead.) I thought we were on the same page, but now that he’s gone, I’m starting to feel differently. I still care for him deeply. He has said all along, he is searching for “the one.” That’s he’s ready to “settle down now.” Get a day job, come home to a wife every night…he’s ready for a commitment with someone once he finds the right person. He also made comments about how we would have made a great couple if it weren’t for him leaving. He said he trusted me. That we could have been great together but circumstances and timing was off. What all does this mean? Did I ever mean anything to him or was he just using me for sex? I need advice from a man’s perspective.
    I have read in other articles that the way to get a man to miss you is by the silent treatment. I blocked him on Facebook…he still had my number and never bothered to text or call or anything…I finally got tired of waiting so I made up a lame work-related excuse to text him, he texted me right back…called me “cupcake,” said it was good to hear from me and he missed talking to me but he thought I was mad at him. I texted him and told him I wasn’t mad, but that I could tell he has already moved on and now I need to do the same, and I’m just taking steps in that direction. I told him it was good to hear from him also. I missed him and I hope we could one day be friends again, but for now I need time. I will reach out to him when I’m ready.” Did I handle that right? Based on what I said to him, does it sound like he will miss me, or think about me? Or is this a lost cause? I need to know what he’s thinking. Any advice?

    • Perkins

      I’m sorry, Nicole, but he doesn’t want you and only used your for sex. That was ALL it was. Move on from this A-hole.

    • Peter White

      Hello Nicole,

      First let me say this because it’s very important – You gave him a book, a gift card, a hand-written letter, and some candy; HE wrapped a $100 in cash and asked for you not to open it until you left.

      You cared enough to do something nice and he returned it with some cash which he “skillfully” wrapped.

      I believe that tells you how much he was willing to invest in you.

      Now it’s not all bad. I won’t say he “used” you for sex BUT I will say you “sort of” opened up that option for him and he took it.

      Since he knew he was leaving there’s a very very very small chance he was going to want anything more anyways. Men always say they’re searching for “the one” and want to finally settle down but they are just words – saying and doing and acting are very different things. Think about it, how many people are NOT searching for the one? He probably said it to make you feel better and I’m sure he meant it – but that’s not a reason to believe he thought you were the person he was talking about.

      When you look at the timing you’ll notice a few things. One, he did everything in his power to avoid making it look like he wanted a relationship and two, there was no doubt he was leaving and had nothing to lose.

      Okay, I’m not going to say this can not develop into something more BUT I wouldn’t rely on it. You’ve already gone too far for him and he’s done nothing but talk about stuff. There’s little doubt in my mind he will look closer to home for his one and in the meantime use you for an Ego boost or to play around with once in a while. All because he knows or believes you’ll continue to chase him.

      Next… nope… you don’t get a guy to miss you by blocking them on Facebook or giving them the silent treatment. What you do get is a guy who is only going to play the same mind games with you, that you’re playing with him.

      *You get a guy to miss you by living YOUR life happily and making your interactions together shorter and more fulfilling and then get right back to living YOUR life without them.

      I can not say definitely that he’ll miss you because he might just miss the “easiness” of it all and the feeling of being chased or courted by a woman. Please don’t rely on this going any further. Again, live YOUR life. Include him occasionally if you want. Find OTHER men to date.

      He will think about you but I can’t say what he will be thinking about but I’m going to assume, since he bowed out of any relationship from the beginning by how he acted, it won’t be a relationship he will be thinking about.

      You learned something from this so it’s all good. You also had a good time so that’s all good. Just don’t plan on turning it into something more unless or until he steps up his game above and far beyond what he’s done so far.

      I can tell you most men do not want a long distance relationship if it’s at all avoidable or unless his life revolves around the distance.

      Wishing you all the best Nicole,

      Your friend,


      • Nicole

        Thank you so much for the help! I’ve moved on…and have found someone worth my time now. 🙂 I sure do appreciate the advice!!!

  • Mwz

    Sent the texts and got this back😊 is that good lol

    • Peter White

      Yes, it is good. Any answer tends to be better than no answer. It also reveals a few other possible things.

      1. That he was waiting or hoping you’d elaborate on it.
      2. He’s not really a fluent texter or communicator. 🙂
      3. Blowing you off based on your past with him.

      Since I’m an optimist, I’d say number 1 and 2 is the case.


  • Ellie


    I’m kind of wanting different opinions on this so here goes.
    I just met a guy who’s military and lives out of state but was home visiting family. We went out and connected like crazy. Anyway, we ended up having sex on the first date – which wasn’t originally intended. He even told me that first night that he wasn’t sure that he wanted to do it because he was going to have to leave soon and all that. We saw each other again after that – literally only a week – and we kept texting (but really lame texting but we always reply at ridiculously big intervals, sometimes it’s immediately). Anyway, he left the state again and he still replies to my texts but it feels like I’m the one supporting most of the conversation – for instance he doesn’t ask questions. I don’t have an issue with him not answering immediately because I totally understand he’s gotta be busy and he always replies at some point. What I’m wondering is he’s not acting really interested anymore but he still replies to my texts – what’s that all about? Both of us were kinda sad by the idea that he was gonna have to leave state and all that so I don’t know if he’s trying to really distance himself or if he’s just bad at texting or if he just wasn’t really interested in the first place or did he just play me? Any thoughts?
    Thanks 🙂

    • Peter White

      Hi Ellie,

      I can tell you from first hand experience that just because a guy isn’t asking a lot of questions it does not mean he’s not interested.

      The rest of this is sort of up to you though. Do you want more? Is this the type of thing you want to get into? Do you believe the distance is a problem for him? These are some questions to help you decide where YOU want things to go from here.

      Now I don’t know what happened on your date and why you decided to have sex on the first date especially if you were looking for something more. But I will say that IF you were or wanted something more, sex on the first date was not the right way to go about it.

      There are lots of reasons but in this case, because it makes it so much more difficult to tell if he was playing you or wants something more.

      I’m going to say that if you noticed an almost immediate change in how he interacts with you, then THAT means everything and is probably his way of telling you he isn’t “into” turning this into something more. Why he might not want something more is beyond my scope because I don’t know you or him or your history in relationships.

      Lastly, a man’s character reveals everything. Integrity, honesty, etc… Men who are players can’t hide that stuff forever.

      If all else fails – at this point – it’s okay to ask him “Was this only about sex?” and note how he answers and feel free to get back to me with his answer.

      All the best,


  • Maria

    Hi Peter I need some advice.
    I met a guy about 2 months ago at the job I was currently working at. We live like 40 minutes away from eachother and he cake down to see me one time. Everything went good, it seemed like, we kissed and talked. After that we texted and he would ask me questions like if I had any feelings for him and he told me he got feelings for me after we kissed. We went on a date and it seemed like he was interested in me. I then went to his house one day and we ended up having sex. He at the time mentioned he was dealing with some court issues with his ex and he also has a daughter from another woman. In the beginning he would text a good amount, but now that has changed. We’ve also hung out 2 more times after we had sex for the first time. He still texts me, but he takes way longer than in the beginning. I feel like I’m the one always starting the conversation. He’s the second guy I’ve ever slept with and am wondering if that’s all he wanted. In the beginning he was so sweet and now it feels like he was just sweet talking to me. I really don’t know what to do as I do like him, but I don’t want to waste my time if sex is all he wants.

    • Peter White

      Hi Maria,

      Let me first say – with a guy – if it feels like YOU are doing all the work then it’s not a good sign. When a guy really likes a woman AND he wants something (or is inclined to chase or court you) he WILL do something about it. Like in the beginning, he he went 40 minutes to see you just to hang out, talk, and kiss. He then would text you, ask you questions, etc..

      Now that you’ve had sex he tells you he has issues he’s dealing with, which means “I do NOT want a relationship right now.” Casual sex and dating being implied. He then pulls back a little and it starts to feel like you’re doing all the work.

      When we look at your circumstance in that way it becomes quite clear what is happening. Sex is what he wants, that’s typical for a guy, BUT there’s no way to tell if he wants something more because I didn’t read anything about you two discussing each of your goals before the sex happened.

      I hear you though. You want a definitive answer about whether he only wants sex from you. Well I can tell you if a guy likes a women, he wants sex at some point. Generally but the odds are in that favor more often than not.

      Just consider what I mentioned above and you’ll have your answer. If (after) you have sex with a guy he starts revealing all his issues (ex’s and such) that is his way of saying I don’t want a relationship right now. He’s telling you exactly where’s he at AND the fact he waited until AFTER you had sex to reveal that very important information says a lot about the guy you’re dealing with, right?

      If you’re looking for a guy who is also looking for a relationship, I’d say this guy is NOT him. I’m not saying you should look for a guy who is ready to jump into one immediately, that would be wrong and unfair and most men will take their time, just that men who are looking for something more AND want it with you, will gladly let you know. This type of information should be shared early on so you’re not left waiting indefinitely.

      Hope that helps you out and all the best,


  • Gabby

    Hi, Peter, you really seem to know your stuff, so I’m going to see if you can help me. I talked to a guy for a few months and things were perfect in the beginning. He came around and we spent lots of time together. Then he stopped doing that as much. He knew I wanted to be with him but he said he couldn’t be with a girl who didn’t “reveal/talk about her emotions”, i.e., wear her emotions on her sleeve (one of his reasons but this was a huge issue to him). I was willing to work on that but then we ended up arguing and he said some hurtful things. So I cut him off. Well, we have the same group of friends, so if there’s an event he will most likely be there. I hadn’t seen or spoken to him in two and a half months. Everyone there knew we had been talking and making it all obvious. So before he left I talked to him for a little bit but of course I didn’t really say what I wanted to (yes, I was tipsy–not shitfaced, though!) We ended up messing around (no intercourse, but, you get it–had things been in place it would have happened). He said I should hit him up since he was leaving, which I did but he never texted me back. All I said was “Hey! I hope this is the right number,” (I deleted his number when I cut him off but found it on my Google Voice) but I got nothing back yet. It’s been about fifteen hours so far. I am planning on sending the two texts mentioned above, or should I just cut my losses? Did my initial text warrant a response? I don’t have an iPhone but I know this dude always has his phone in his hand. He did mention before it’s annoying to switch from app to app, but I mean, come on! I actually really like this guy, but it won’t be the end of the world if he doesn’t bother with me. Help!

  • Alyssa

    Does this work for an ex that you’re kind of on speaking terms with trying to judge if they miss you or not? We just broke up a little over a month ago due to him getting stationed across the country and have only texted a couple times. I still love him and it’s killing me to know how he feels.

    • Peter White

      Hey Alyssa,

      I would not suggest you use these type of messages in your situation. First, you’ve been in a relationship which should mean to you he feels something for you. You’ve broken up because of the long distance but that doesn’t change how a guy might feel about you. This a casual type of messaging an since you’ve been in a relationship and communication is very important, I would directly ask him or again, just assume if a guy was committed to you, it means he’s feeling something.


    • Bianca varelas

      If he is in the military please dont play games and mess with their minds. They have enough to worry about defending our country then to be distracted by immature females.

  • Ellie

    Guy I’m interested in and who’s supposedly interested in me. He sucks at texting, and is an “inactive” texter. I don’t see him go on his phone at all when we’re together which makes me happy because I hold his full attention. He’s flirty, fun and keeps telling me all “the right things”. But he’s short over text, and wouldn’t really answer my texts until a day later or two. I decided to try your trick and he just said “sure lol”.

    I really like him but now I just feel defeated.

    • Peter White


      You can not always 100% tell how a guy feels through text messaging especially when the guy doesn’t revolve around his phone.

      I would look at his actions towards you in person as an indicator of interest. If a guy is consistently asking you out or going out with you AND is treating you differently than he would a close friend, (flirting, etc…) or doing things with you he wouldn’t do with a guy friend – then chances are – he’s interested in you.


  • Nathalie

    Just wanted to let you know I tested your theory and wrote the text you offered about letting the guy know I was thinking of him. He texted back within 5 mins and texted ‘”Can we meet up babe” ” Can we meet at the Paza”. I didn’t expect that at all hahaha. I guess I was hoping he’d text ‘ me too’ not actually lets meet lol. Maybe he’s more into me than I thought. Your method clearly works. WOW!!!

    • Peter White


      Thanks for sharing Nathalie. Happy it worked for you. All the best to you,


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