Note from the editor: The story, advice, or tips below were written by Peter White slightly based on what Rori Raye teaches women about attracting men and great relationships. There’s a link to her amazing and popular Ebook. You’ll find (after the book) lots of great articles written personally by Rori just for you which have been posted here at dialteg.
The Wrong Ways To Try and Connect With A Man
You know how and why a guy falls in love with you and so you act (or react) in a way which you believe makes it more likely to make it happen.
No one can blame or fault you for it.
Maybe a few men have fallen in love with you and you put it all together in your mind.
You acted or did certain things – he fell for you or chased you until you gave in – it only makes logical sense that the two are connected, right?
Whatever you did, it worked and so you went with it.
Except you keep running into the same problem.
THAT guy who is in love with you – you’re not really into him that much. Maybe you gave in one or twice because you felt a little something for him and he sweet to you, kind, a little loving AND he courted you; he made you feel GOOD!
But the inevitable outcome was the same as it was before:
Sometime in the future – maybe after a few dates or even after an eight month long relationship, it all fell apart OR you realized he’s just not the guy for you.
You feel like a hunk of junk breaking it off but however it happens – good, bad, or worse – it’s over and you’re left to start again. Really, who actually enjoys the break-up talk?
AND here comes a guy you feel INSTANTLY attracted to and your feelings skyrocket for him – so much it’s almost unbearable at times.
Based on your past experiences and the men who loved you before, you think it’s all good. You can just do what you did before and soon he’ll be acting like the last guy or the one before him.
BUT it doesn’t work.
This new one confuses you. He doesn’t chase you. He’s not acting like those “other” guys.
And it freaks you out – so much you start doing things you’ve never done before – things you’ve told your girlfriends not to do with a guy because you could see it happening – but in your mind it feels like you have no choice and you’re in it so deep, you don’t even realize you’re going there.
You’re now stuck going round and round in your head TRYING or forcing it to happen and while every endeavor seems like you’re getting closer to him – in a flash he pulls away even further.
The harder you try to grasp him the further you push him away.
Rori Raye says one a big problem here is that you think you know what a man wants but it’s actually those very same things that push a man away.
You believe you know what causes a man to fall in love but the often sad reality is, most of the time those beliefs or the things you try to pull a man closer or to make him fall in love with you – do the opposite and cause them to run away from you.
In her article: Three Ways You’ll Push A Man Away – How To Inspire His Total Devotion she warns you about the wrong ways to connect with a man… if you have found yourself trying to connect with a man in any of these ways – then it’s time you learn the awful truth – they don’t work.
Here are those three big mistakes you’re making while trying to connect with a man.
Or the three ways you should NEVER try to connect with a man IF you want something more with him.
(Sometimes based on the past guys who have fallen in love with you before.)
Connecting with his mind or logical side makes sense, men are logical, compartmentalized, lack emotions, or whatever and so going through his male brain naturally should work – but it doesn’t because:
Impressing him, having a great conversation, him enjoying spending time with you, and while you’re connecting with each other on a few things it’s not enough to create chemistry or to get him to FEEL something more for you than he would a close friend.
So you can’t go through his mind.
Maybe you’ll get to him sexually. Men are definitely into sex. They’re very visually orientated so going through his body will certainly in the very least get your “foot” in the door.
But all that gets you is a sex buddy. You quickly found out he isn’t into sharing something real with you. He fights you or pulls away just when it seems like he’s finally ready to become your boyfriend or to make a REAL commitment to you.
So… you can’t go through his body.
(At least not fully. It’s a small part but NEVER enough and doing so once again only will eventually make it all fall apart because you can’t take it anymore or he grows tired of it OR he finds someone else to fulfill what he’s really looking for from a woman.)
How about connecting with him in the spiritual sense. That HAS to work, right?
You find you share lots of the same beliefs and values, you worship the same things, you’re creating a bond based on shared passions so you must be creating an emotional bond – you both believe in commitments, you’re both looking for it – this MUST be the answer…
Nope – sorry – you’re doing something great BUT you’ll quickly see all you’re really doing is creating a deep friendship with him that doesn’t go anywhere further.
And the harder you try to turn that friendship into something more – the distance between you grows because he’s just not feeling “that” way towards.
So you can’t go down the spiritual road either.
Sure it’s great to find those things in common – they’re important to both of you BUT that’s not where the REAL CONNECTION starts – friendships, however close they become rarely if ever turn into a long-lasting relationship built on LOVE.
You might be wondering – what’s left?
HOW do you connect with a man when you’re not supposed to go through his mind, body, or soul?
The only way is left is through his HEART.
Yes – I know – I hear you – HOW does that work?
Well the concept is simple by design:
First you must connect with YOUR heart – you must be in touch with your feelings.
No real men will ever feel safe to open up to you and express how he truly feels if you’re not there.
The “secret” or “trick” to make that happen is learning exactly how to express your feelings in words and ways that brings him closer and connects with his heart.
There are unfortunately more ways to do that the wrong way than there are right ways making it so utterly confusing – it’s not something I would try on your own without learning it first from Rori which is shown to you in her famous Ebook: Have the Relationship You Want.
I give you some helpful tips on the cover page. If you like you can go through them here: How To Communicate to Yourself – Getting In Touch With Your Feelings.
You’ll also find that in each article Rori has allowed me to post which are linked below, she will always put YOU and your feelings first. She will also help you discover them and dig in deep so you can fully experience them which in turn makes it easier for you to express to any guy.
Again – I can not emphasize this enough: You must not try to express your feelings to a guy and connect to his heart in this way unless you know exactly how it’s done because it must be done in a way which brings him closer.
BUT you can learn all of that and so much more because it’s all in her Ebook: Have the Relationship You Want.
Click the image or link above for more information and current pricing.
If you’re not ready yet to learn how to do it all – maybe you’re not sure if it’s something you need or want – maybe you want a better idea of what the techniques and skills you’ll be using will involve – which is totally understandable… I have two very good answers for you:
It’s risk free. You get to try it for seven days. If it’s not for you then you can ask for a refund.
Go here and sign up to Rori’s newsletter and she’ll gladly pass along some of her proven techniques to you for free.
Please feel free to let me know how it works out for you in comment section below. I love to hear all of her success stories.
“It’s my belief that creating a long-lasting natural attraction is nothing more than how you communicate to others the belief you have in yourself. A great relationship always starts with a feeling that is was meant to be.
Your guy friend, Pete”
Peter White – Why Do Guys…? | DiaLteG TM and here: How to Meet & Attract Your Next Date | Communication Skills & Natural Relationships
Personal Tips & Advice Articles written by Rori Raye
Simple and practical real solutions to some common problems you might be having with men:
- How you can easily appear more attractive
- How to be the prize he’s looking for
- How to show him interest without chasing him
- How staying secure in yourself allows him to reveal his true feelings about you
- How putting yourself first actually opens up men to you
- How to keep your feminine energy
- What makes you the most interesting women in the world to him
Create the right space so he can come to you. Men like to feel like they’re winning you over.
Stop doing and start being. Allow him to progress naturally. He won’t think you’re not interested. If he’s attracted to you he will not stop because you’re not showering him with love.”
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These simple truths revealed offer you any new dating experience the “attractive” edge you’ve may have been missing. When you begin over thinking it changes your attractive vibe. You must date other men to take the pressure off of both of you.
So make sure you’re the prize.
It’s normal to want to show interest in a man you like. You don’t want him to lose him before you get to know him. You try to act like the social director of the relationship.
You appear less attractive because you’re sending a message of insecurity. It pays to be patient. Let him take the lead.
Lure him and don’t chase him. Stay open to his attention.
It’s about what you are. You can not convince him to fall in love with you. Your feminine energy should guide to you. Be open to receive. People who are passionate about their interests are interesting people.
Putting yourself first may be scary but if you want to show him you’re a great catch, his value for you will go up when he has to work for you. What you are.
What you let a man give to you. Being a modern siren. Not convincing a man to love you but leading him there is the way to his heart.
Your husband or boyfriend is friends with another women and it’s driving you crazy. You don’t want to jump to conclusions or mess up the relationship. Here’s how to handle this situation.
Stop talking about her. Take focus off him and put it in yourself.
To become aware of your true feelings, you have to feel them.
You’re doing everything for him and he won’t even meet you half way. You’re missing the big tickets items in your relationship. You’re just not satisfied in with what is happening in your relationship.
Over functioning means not taking care of what matters. Trying to play your man’s part in the relationship as well as yours creates tension and conflict — and even if you could succeed at it, you wouldn’t like the results.
Men can sense the vibe you’re putting out. Where fear is going. How it moves. How it affects you and how to use its energy for good. Take small steps in the right direction.”
You didn’t even mention a relationship to him and he suddenly pulls away. Your fears come rushing at you and you don’t know how to handle them. You can work to make fear smaller, or you can work to make fear bigger.
As a Woman you have lots of feelings and emotions racing through your mind. You can experience them all in a flash. So how do you handle them. How do you sort it all out. Be compassionate, grateful, and embrace yourself. Go there by using compassion dialogue. Here’s how you do it.
Loving yourself is easy to do – this is how.
To get close to a man you have to let him in. Do the Rori Raye Mantra and see how all the compassion and love takes care of itself and thank yourself.
- Be compassionate with yourself.
- Be grateful to yourself.
- Embrace yourself.
“Three wrong ways to get a man to love you and share his commitment. The logical road of his mind, The physical road of his body. The spiritual mind of his soul.
Connect with his heart if you want to inspire his total devotion and love to you.
You must be in touch with your feelings in order to connect with his heart.”
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